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Love Is a Contract

Reasons why love is more than just a feeling

By R. E. DelacroixPublished 5 years ago 2 min read
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As I learned about the importance and the elements of a contract in my paralegal program, I delved into the meaning and the application of contracts in my daily life. A contact can be done orally, but it is legally binding in writing. When I finished dabbling into this topic, I realized something—Love is a contract. These are the reasons why I believe love is a contract:

1. There is INTENT.

When it comes to love, our intent is to love a human being as immensely as possible and to grow old with them for the rest of our lives. We need to be mindful of our intentions when we like someone. “What do we want with this person? Why do we like to get to know them?” Once we come to know our intention of loving someone then, we can think of ways to make someone fall for us.

2. There is OFFER AND ACCEPTANCE.

Now this is a tricky part. Everyone wants to love someone and be loved in return, hence the offer. And the acceptance part is the one that may make or break us. If there is acceptance on the prospect’s side, it is a bonus because it adds to the element, per se. If the prospect cannot accept the offer, the contract ceases to exist. The "love" contract is just a dangling offer with little to no chance of acceptance. Therefore, we should not expect our love to be returned because it will ruin everything.

3. There is CONSIDERATION.

Consideration is one of the must-haves for the "love" contract to work. It is reality’s way of saying, “What can I get in return for your love?” This question makes this element the trickiest of all elements. Of course, we have to consider the other person when it comes with love. Will they be able to enjoy a love that will last a lifetime? Or will they be miserable for the rest of their lives?

Every person who wants to be loved must know what they will get themselves into so that they will reap the benefits of loving someone. The same goes for the other party. It is reality’s way of saying, “If you will love me, I will do whatever you want for me to do.” Of course, there are some conditions added to this consideration, but not necessarily the superficial ones, like, “You have to be a certain way for me to love you.” That is NOT what consideration is all about. The conditions I am talking about are the ways for two people to make love work. After all, we’re making a partnership here.

4. There is LEGALITY.

In love, we have to make sure the person is single, available, and have no malicious intent, such as two-timing. If that person does, well, all hell will break loose for sure. If the person happened to be in a relationship (whether he or she is going steady with someone or he or she is married), that is one of the ultimate red flags in finding a lover. In addition to the legality, the person we are about to be with has to be honest with us, or else the "love" contract will be breached.

There are so many reasons why the "love" contract can be breached in the long-run—abuse (physical or verbal), boredom, secrecy, misunderstandings, miscommunications, and so on. And so, it is our responsibility to ensure our well-being when these circumstances arrive. Or else, we have no choice but to deal with the consequences.

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R. E. Delacroix

Disclaimer: Red is not my favourite colour.

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