Is My Relationship Healthy?
Feeling Healthy in an Unhealthy Relationship...5 Tips to Make Sure You're Staying True to You!
All too often women and men find themselves lost in a relationship that’s seemingly so perfect. Until your significant other leaves you without warning, does something to change your opinion completely or you just have a realty check. No matter the scenario, you were caught off guard and forced to see your relationship for what it really is. It’s never easy to accept but I do want to give you pointers on keeping it real with yourself!!
1.) Realize when you’re making excuses for your partner.
If their behavior is passive, abusive, distant, hard to read, or extreme bring it to their attention and try to get to the bottom of it. Don’t assume everything will work itself out, sometimes your partner WANTS you to ask questions because they aren’t sure how to bring a touchy topic to you. Mention that things feel weird between you and you want to be on the same page.
2.) Do not neglect your own feelings!
Yes we must dismiss irrational thoughts and fears but don’t ignore a feeling that doesn’t go away. Sometimes we tell ourselves we should feel happy, grateful and secure even when we don’t. Don’t convince yourself that you have the best you’ll ever get if your partner makes you feel unworthy or inadequate. That isn’t healthy and you’re worth more!
3.) Listen to the people around you!
Yes, there can be haters on your relationship that simply don’t want you and your partner to happily progress, but listen to the quieter opinions. So your friends say they miss you all the time? Do you find yourself feeling stuck between obligations with loved ones and your significant other? Do your loved ones joke about how attached you are? Do you find yourself feeling guilty for spending too much time with your significant other because you don’t spend time with others?
4.) Who am I?
Ask yourself this often in a relationship! In my own experience this is my favorite. Because sometimes you may be surprised at how intertwined you’ve become in your relationship. Remember your identity. Remember who you were before him or her. Embrace your individuality and your partner will too. Growing together is ideal, becoming one in that goal is ultimate! We often believe you must leave behind your old self to commit to someone, in some ways that can be true; but what’s most important is growing together, but separately. Recognizing the unique qualities you both have and helping each other improve those qualities, passions and opinions.
5.) Loyalty Loyalty Loyalty
It’s a big thing to many to have and be a loyal partner. But please do not sacrifice your happiness for loyalty! Especially if you’re kid-free! Even if you do have children think about the example you’re setting and know that children often mimic behavior they saw in relationships growing up. Take care of you first and you will attract the perfect person!
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