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Is It Okay to Kiss on the First Date?

You will be happy to know that the future of your relationship isn’t tied to the duration of your first kiss, how good it was, or in which date it happened. There are couples who kissed on their first dates and ended up growing old together. Others have waited until their wedding day to kiss- or even have sex- and went on to divorce within months.

By Robert GitauPublished 4 years ago 5 min read
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Kissing on your first date isn't a matter of life and death

Your first date is going very well. Your chemistry is nearly tangible. Your conversation is flowing pretty well. As if pre-planned, without any signal whatsoever, boom!! You two are locking lips in the most electrifying kiss of your life. Or maybe you were saying your goodbyes and as you leaned in to cheek peck her, one thing led to another and you ended up kissing on the lips. These scenarios would probably make you uncomfortable—or not, depending on how you perceive first date kisses. But the million dollar question is:

Is It Okay To Kiss On the First Date?

This is a tough question, we must admit, particularly because there isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer. Dating rules differ from society to society and from one individual to the other. Perhaps the best answer would come from within you: If you two feel like kissing on your first date, then why not? If you are uncomfortable doing it, then why the pressure?

You will be happy to know that the future of your relationship isn’t tied to the duration of your first kiss, how good it was, or in which date it happened. There are couples who kissed on their first dates and ended up growing old together. Others have waited until their wedding day to kiss—or even have sex—and went on to divorce within months.

Under Which Circumstances Is Kissing On First Date Okay?

If you are a lady, let him kiss you if:

  • Your instincts are telling you to, and they have never failed you before.
  • You really liked the guy. What’s the worst that can emanate from kissing your crush, anyway?
  • You have known the guy for long even before that first date. Maybe you have been friends and have now decided to take your relationship a step higher. That fact that you have known him long enough should give you confidence that he will stop whenever you tell him to.
  • You two have already set your relationship boundaries to the effect that he won’t misinterpret the kiss to mean that you are easy-going. Bottom line: The kiss shouldn’t ruin your good dating reputation.
  • A bonus tip for you: If he isn’t kissing you but you really would want his lips on yours, there is no harm in making the first move. Trust us he will not misjudge you; this isn’t 1900.

If you are a man, kiss her if:

  • You desperately want to. The last thing you want is to lean in to kiss her just because you think it is a cool thing to do, and then end up screwing up. Only take the risks that you must.
  • Your physical connection is indisputable. If she is touching you comfortably, if she’s letting you touch her hair, or if she’s comfortable sitting on your lap, then it would be unforgivable for you to not kiss her passionately.
  • She’s flashing her eyebrows, smiling shyly, slightly biting her lips, or flicking her hair when you lock eyes. Those are some of the moves that women use to flirt with their dates or to show their appreciation for flirty complements. Don’t let all that flirting go to waste. Kiss her.
  • She’s subconsciously playing with her ring, hair, straw, and literally everything around her. That’s a sign that she’s drop-dead into you and a kiss is one of several sexual favors she would enjoy from you. Don’t disappoint her, brother!

Does Kissing On First Date Mean Anything?

If you already kissed on your first date, you are probably very confused right now. Well, we are here to help. We will answer these three questions for you just to ease your confusion.

i) What did the kiss mean?

  • Getting into your date’s head and deciphering his or her real kissing intentions isn’t the easiest thing to do. From experience, however, the nature of your first date kiss could be a reliable giveaway.
  • If it was a normal kiss on the lips, there is a great chance that your date is really attracted to you and wouldn’t risk screwing his future chances with you for a one day deep kiss.
  • If you crazily made out, the chances are two. First, the dude is too much into you that he lost his mind and couldn’t resist going the full length on the first day. Second, kissing on first dates could be his way of making false first impressions. Either way, how he behaves in the subsequent dates will tell you what his real intentions are.

ii) Do first-date kisses mean anything anymore?

Yes they do. Many things might keep changing within the dating circles but one thing will always remain intact: Kissing is the gateway to intimate romance. A first date kiss could be an intimate form of goodbyes, a gauge of how much you are into him, a way of provoking your reaction, or a sign of a hot romantic relationship ahead. It certainly means something.

iii) The kiss was orgasmic, alright, but is that an indication that the date before it went well?

Yes and no. Yes because not many people can kiss someone they didn’t like, and no because there are people who would do anything to get laid. If he kissed you and left without suggesting anything weird, then that kiss could be his vote of confidence in you and the date. If, on the other hand, he attempted to dip his hands into your cookie jar, there is a strong chance that he had it all figured out even before you agreed to go out on a date with him.

In Conclusion

For as long as you want it, kissing on your first date isn’t outrageous or abominable. Who cares if it goes well or not? If you two are destined to be together, you definitely will end up together. So, before bolting out the door, be sure to frantically brush your teeth in readiness for a hot kiss. And even if you choose to save the kiss for third or tenth date, there isn’t any harm in being ready.

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