Is It Love Or Lust

In the pursuit of love, I have found it to be inconsistent and inconceivable. I don’t believe true love exists; oh no, who am I kidding? I’m the epitome of a hopeless romantic. In most cases, we rush into relationships very quickly without knowing the actual characteristics of a person.

We are setting ourselves up for a disaster. But in all respect, we believe that one is genuinely in love with us when he is not. And that becomes a struggle within itself, not knowing how to distinguish the difference between real love or lust. You become someone’s freewill doing to you as they please.

Why be that woman? Why allow yourself the mistreatment from those with such low standards? You are valuable, and you are worth it. It is time for women worldwide to love themselves first with pure and honest love, and once you have achieved that, reciprocity in the relationship will be mutual.

Because now you are aware of false people and fake images that they portray. Some say you will recognize true love when you see it, But I believe true love is when you feel way down in the soul, and there is nothing you can do to avoid it. Now that is the kind of love I am waiting for, the one I feel deeply connected to and can’t shake it if I wanted to—the one who will sweep me off my feet and make me float on cloud nine.

Television has played a significant role in how people address relationships and or marriages. There is no real connection anymore. Some folks are not taking the time to get to know the person they are courting. Everything nowadays is being rushed.

Most people don’t realize that they end up in lustful relationships instead of loving relationships. The new way is to get into a relationship quickly without knowing an individual. And so, this has become the new societal norm.

Some marriages are not lasting because folks don’t know who each other are. Women are tired of their men looking at other women, so now they are bringing in third-party situations to please their men. Men are not satisfied with only one woman, so they create babies all over the place.

But when we look back on all of these scenarios, lust seems to the culprit, confusing people making one believe love exists when, in fact, it’s desire. Now that person has probably spent an awful amount of time engaging in lust instead of love. And we wonder why getting in a quick relationship does not last long.

But we are sure to put things into perspective moving forward. Making sure we get it right the next time around. Our hearts depend on it; we no longer crave or desire lust over love. We stepped back and took a long look and decided that we would treat looking for real love as we would treat ourselves. And unconditionally loving yourselves is the only way to ensure you will get the same in return.

Love is the only incentive we are motivated by it. In relationships, we are forever held captive by it, which fuels the trueness of real love.

It’s safe to say that we can have proper authentic relations with people if we take the opportunity to get to know them instead of rushing quickly. It’s ok if we pull back and learn to distinguish between real and what is fake, and that will diminish the probability of one making the mistake of choosing lust over love.