"If you buy a house for your daughter for 200,000 yuan, don't ask me to retire." The in-laws took out the real estate certificate, and the daughter-in-law was anxious

If you marry the right wife, you will be able to prosper for three generations. If you marry the wrong wife, the family will be restless. While you are working hard in your career, you will be troubled by family disputes, and you will not be able to do a good job in your own business.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong wrote in "Chinese-Style Love and Love": The unlovable things in marriage are because the original intention is not from "I love you", but from "You give me" - not marriage is wrong , but asks too much from marriage.

In real life, there are not only scumbags who do not take responsibility and make women see no hope, but also women who do not know how to cherish happiness and are insatiable. There are vicious mothers-in-law who are not pleasing to their daughters-in-law, and daughters-in-law who do not know how to be grateful, have no respect for their parents-in-law, and just want to benefit from their parents-in-law.

Everyone has a bottom line, and they all have their own inverse scales. The other party treats you well and treats you as family because they want to maintain your relationship, make the family harmonious, and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. However, this does not mean that the other party is afraid of you or that you will leave this home. If you are insatiable and coveting things that are not originally yours, such as your in-laws' property, it is very likely to attract dissatisfaction with your in-laws and men who are good at you, and make them disappointed in you.

I want everything, I want the benevolence and kindness of my in-laws, I want the help of my in-laws, I want my in-laws' property, and if I disagree, I will threaten my in-laws with pensions. Few in-laws can stand such daughters-in-law.

"You said, should I give my daughter-in-law another chance? After all, she is my grandson's biological mother. I don't want to destroy my grandson's small family and make my grandson a child of a single-parent family."

Aunt Zhao's feelings towards her daughter-in-law Song Ling are complicated. , she couldn't bear it.

01. To be honest, if it wasn't for my son's insistence, I really don't want him to marry a wife who has the potential to help the younger brother;

When she mentioned her daughter-in-law, Aunt Zhao got angry. As early as when her son got married, she was not optimistic about this marriage, worried that it would not be a good thing to marry this girl, because her daughter-in-law Song Ling's parents were serious about sons. Female.

"Born in a family where sons are more important than daughters, it is a great misfortune for a girl. If she is a girl who knows self-love, is assertive, and is clear-headed, dares to rebel against her parents, and does not respond to their parents' needs, I am still a girl like this. I appreciate it very much, but after having been in contact with her for a period of time, I found that she was brainwashed by the patriarchal ideology, and she is a proper supporter of the younger brother."

Let's talk about the dowry! Aunt Zhao has no objection to the behavior of the woman's parents asking for a betrothal gift. This is a traditional custom. As long as she expected, as long as the price of the betrothal gift is reasonable and reasonable, Aunt Zhao can accept it and agree without hesitation.

However, Song Ling's parents asked for 280,000 betrothal gifts. Although they promised to give half of their daughter as a dowry, Song Ling has a younger brother who is in the third year of junior high school. His parents are of average ability. Can not accept.

Facing the unreasonable demands of her parents, Song Ling not only did not take the initiative to reject her parents, but instead cried with Aunt Zhao's son, saying that if Aunt Zhao's son loved her, he should obey her parents' requirements. Aunt Zhao was disappointed with Song Ling's attitude, and even felt that once Song Ling got married, she would have to use her husband's money to subsidize her family.

Aunt Zhao's son, Yi Yi, graduated from college, with a good income and good facial features. Under the discipline of his parents, his character is also good, and he can't find a good partner with his conditions. However, I don't know what Aunt Zhao's son thinks and insists on marrying Song Ling. At the insistence of her son, Aunt Zhao finally compromised and gave 280,000 betrothal gifts. As expected, Song Ling only brought back 20,000 of the 280,000 betrothal gifts.

02. Your parents prefer sons to daughters, it does not mean that I will too. In my heart, my daughter is also my sweetheart;

Aunt Zhao and his wife own two houses, one in the city center and one in the suburbs. After her son got married, Aunt Zhao gave them the house in the city center as their wedding room.

As a mother, Aunt Zhao's greatest hope for her children is their happiness. As long as Song Ling is willing to live peacefully with her son after she gets married, and knows how to protect the interests of their small family instead of always subsidizing her parents' family, Aunt Zhao doesn't plan to be an evil mother-in-law.

However, after getting married, Song Ling not only used her salary to subsidize her mother's family, but also always asked her husband for money. If Aunt Zhao's son did not give it, she would not make trouble. Aunt Zhao couldn't bear it any longer and criticized Song Ling. She cried and said that they bullied her alone, which made Aunt Zhao feel angry and helpless.

It's not over yet. Song Ling not only acted as a helper, but also had an idea of ​​her in-laws' property. In her eyes, her in-laws' property should belong to them, and her sister-in-law, as a daughter, should not get any property.

"My daughter is about to get married, and she is married out of town. I have negotiated with my wife and plan to help my daughter with half of the down payment, so that my daughter will have more confidence in living there. Our daughter's in-law's family asked for 100,000 dowry, and we plan to pay more. Adding a dowry of 200,000 yuan to her is what we want as parents."

They did not ask their son for the 200,000, but planned to take their own savings. Logically speaking, this has nothing to do with her daughter-in-law, but after Song Ling found out, she started making trouble again.

"The water splashed by the married daughter should keep her dowry money. Why do you have to give her so much money? The money belongs to us in the first place, and we will be responsible for your retirement in the future!"

03. Threat me with pension, don't think about that property;

Although Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhao's son explained to their daughter-in-law that there was no patriarchal ideology in their family. In the hearts of Aunt Zhao and the old couple, their daughter is also their darling, and her daughter's happiness is equally important to them. But Song Ling was unrelenting.

Originally, Aunt Zhao didn't want to worry about her daughter-in-law. She had the final say on whether to give the money or not. There was no need to take her daughter-in-law's opinion seriously. But what Song Ling said next. It completely offended Aunt Zhao and made her lose her temper.

"If you buy a house for your daughter for 200,000 yuan, don't look for me for retirement, look for your daughter."

It's not the first time Song Ling has done this to blackmail her parents-in-law about retirement. From her confinement to taking the baby, and when Aunt Zhao and his wife asked for money, she always talked about pension matters, which made Aunt Zhao dissatisfied. This time, Aunt Zhao was really disappointed with Song Ling, and she didn't plan to get used to her anymore.

So, Aunt Zhao and his wife took out the real estate certificate and threw it in front of Song Ling: "You won't give us pension, right? Do you think we are afraid of you? We have two houses and savings, so are you worried about pension? I'm going to find a nursing home to live in, ask someone to take care of me, or go to my daughter. It seems that for the money, my daughter and son-in-law will always treat us well! It's better than you. Well. Well, that's fine, don't stay in my room, too. Get out of here!"

After finishing speaking, Aunt Zhao called her son out and suggested that her son get a divorce, otherwise, she would take back the house.

"Seeing that my attitude was so tough, my daughter-in-law was anxious and called me to apologize. My son also said, let me give her another chance for my grandson's sake. Well, I can give her another chance, I hope she Know how to cherish happiness."

04. If you are not greedy enough to swallow an elephant, you will eventually destroy yourself and lose what you already have.

As the ancient Greek fabler Aesop said, some people because of greed, want more things, but also lose what they have now.

A man who marries you, treats you well, takes care of you, and loves you is right, but this does not mean that a man needs to support your whole family, that he needs to be responsive to you, and it does not mean that the property of your in-laws already belongs to you at this moment. .

What belongs to you, you have to grasp, don't be taken away by others, things that do not belong to you should not be coveted, insatiable greed, it is easy to backfire on yourself.

Getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on affection, not obligation. You have no obligation to support your in-laws, nor do your in-laws have the obligation to bring you babies or help you after you get married. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be grateful, respect each other, and help each other in order to live in harmony.