I want to get my ex back

“I want to get my ex back”, that's all you might be thinking about right now, breaking up can be hard times. I’m here to tell you the truth about getting back with an ex-girlfriend, I’ve done it and sometimes it’s been a mistake, others a success.

It's a really sticky and awful situation to be in, we can get to obsess with the idea and do all sorts of crazy things, this is all our natural reaction. Let's go through the mos common thoughts

"I Can't stop thinking about her."

If you’ve broken up with your girlfriend then you’re probably stuck in awful and depressing thought loops like this one: “I want to get my ex back, I’ll never find someone as good as her, I want her back, she’s unique, I want to get my ex back”.

I know how it works because I’ve been there before - it’s an awful and almost inescapable thought loop.

In reality when we're "heartbroken" like this we tend to exagerate the girl's good atributes, you gotta realize that a lot of those thoughts are exagerated big time by the feeling of "loss".

So how do you stop it? – That’s probably not what you’re wondering really.

All you’re wondering right now is “how do I get my ex back?”

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That takes us to the first problem:

An abundance mentality:

The reason why you got your girlfriend in the first place has a lot to do with attraction, challenge and status.

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You broke up for a reason. Most likely because the attraction faded out. Once you’re in a relationship, if you fail to lead your woman and remain a challenge then attraction is going to quickly fade away.

"She just stopped loving me."

Women are emotional creatures, this means they live in the heat of the moment, this is good news and bad news - in this case it’s bad news.

Why?

Well, she won’t remember how special you made her feel before, or how attracted she was to you - all that you are to her at the moment is a needy guy who wants her back. No amount of convincing will make her attracted to you again.

This happens because you’re coming from a place of scarcity, scarcity means neediness and neediness is unattractive. The guy who once was an exciting challenge to for her is no longer there because he’s now a needy chump.

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You probably were being somewhat needy in your relationship, or looking for her approval in one way or another. But, once you break up with her, when you “lost what you had” that you become ten times needier.

And this is actually your fault, not hers. When you get into a relationship you’ve got to still be the cool guy that attracted her in the first place.

How do you fix this?

You’ve gotta fall back into an abundance mindset.

It’s a very tricky situation, because once you’re all heartbroken and fall into the “I want to get my ex back and it's the only thing I want” mentality.

Then, even if you’re trying to be abundant again you’re going to be doing it just because you want her back, and coming at it from the wrong angle the whole time.

What worked for me:

Drop your attachments.

Relationships create a strong bond and a lot of attachment, it’s hard to let go of it. If you want to “get her back” you’ve got to let go of her completely first, this is the only way to trully stop being needy.

Most times letting go of the girl is not what we want.

Letting go is very scary, and we don't want to do it. The idea of "not wanting her" can actually be pretty scary. Oftentimes after you've broken up with your girl, all you really and selfishly want is to feel again the way she made you feel.

You've got to let go of her first, and face the fact that you might end up not even wanting her at all afterwards.

This is the most important step of making “getting her back” possible.

Cut all sorts of contact, stop annoying her and go into abundance by actually being abundant.

The way to be abundant: Start going out and being more social, meeting more girls, interacting with them and even getting makeouts or more, who knows?

Having a socially rich lifestyle where you're completly happy with yourself is the best way to truly be aboundant and attract people to your life.

Make this switch in your mind: Being needy will push her away and being abundant will make people in general want to be around you.

It’s so important that you start taking these abundance mindsets attitudes again. Remember that being single allows you to more easily put your life together and point it in the direction that you want.

Take this chance to meet girls, live a rich social life and put your life in order, it helps a lot.

"I want to get my ex back no matter what"

Getting back with her is not always the best option:

There are many reasons why relationships end.

If you got cheated on, I’d recommend you should just never talk to her again.

It’s a very hurtful situation and as much as you’d want your ex back; your trust has been destroyed.

Getting her back after being cheated on always means signing up for free paranoia.

On the other hand, if it ended because of arguments, a lack of attraction("I don't feel the same way anymore") or whatever reason, then the previous points on this article should work out pretty well.

Still, getting back together doesn’t mean your problems will be gone; the reasons why you fought in the first place will still be there.

Think about those problems you had with her before you even think of getting her back. Because they will come back if you get back together with her.

This article speaks the truth about what getting an ex-girlfriend back is like. I know there’s a huge market out there for products on this topic, and many are scams, some aren’t.

There’s no exact science behind human interactions, nothing is 100% sure to work, I hope this article can help you out with the issue of “how to get my ex back”.

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The road to social mastery has many ups and downs, breaking up might be a low point but there is still hope, and if it doesn’t work out there’s literally millions of girls out there. Go out and get social!

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