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I Want My Boyfriend Back but I Don't Know If He Still Loves Me (How To Know If He Still Loves Me After Break Up)

Are you scratching your head in wonderment, saying I want my boyfriend back but I don't know if he still loves me? If you're wondering how to know if he still loves you after break up then you're not alone because it seems like the line has been blurred in a lot of relationships.

By Banks RobertPublished 3 years ago Updated 2 years ago 6 min read
I Want My Boyfriend Back but I Don't Know If He Still Loves Me (How To Know If He Still Loves Me After Break Up)
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Over and over again, you ask yourself: "How can I tell if my ex-boyfriend still loves me?" Do you want to get back together but aren't sure how he really feels? Are you ready to try again if you know he still cares? When couples break up, it's often difficult to predict whether the break will be permanent or short-term. The single biggest factor that determines if a break-up becomes a make-up: whether both partners still love each other. So being able to determine if an ex-boyfriend still cares is important, when you know that you still love him and want to get back together. Luckily, there are a few clues that can help you determine if your boyfriend is through, or just blue.

He still comes around.

If every time you turn around, your ex is there, consider it a sign. Yesterday he was dropping off your apartment key in person. Today he's returning a book. Tomorrow he's planning to be at the same dinner party. Coincidence? Possibly, but not likely. When your ex is still in your orbit, sounds like there's still unfinished business there. "How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still loves me?" you ask. When he still finds excuses to see you, you can tell.

He cares what you think.

When you find your ex trying to explain or apologize when he sees you, that's another good sign. An uncaring ex is either going to be giving you the silent treatment or trying to angrily justify his past behavior. If your ex tries to convince you that he meant you know harm, if he asks you what you think about him - these are definite signs that you are in his thoughts and in his heart. "How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still loves me?" you ask. When what you think still matters, you can tell.

He hasn't moved on with someone else.

One of the surest signs that your guy is still stuck on you: he hasn't started dating anyone else. While rebound relationships aren't usually a good idea, guys are notorious for bouncing into the dating field quickly. If your guy is playing the field again, you can usually find out from mutual friends and acquaintances being only too happy to tell you. But if he doesn't appear to be circulating much these days, that's a very promising sign. "How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still loves me?" you ask. When he isn't looking for love elsewhere, you can tell.

Breaking up is never fun. But trying to make up when the desire to do so is one-sided - that can be even more painful. Before you try to patch things up with your ex, stop just asking yourself: "How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still loves me?" Use your eyes and ears, and you may soon have the answer for yourself. If your boyfriend still cares, he may be waiting for you to make the first move. So what's stopping you?

How to Win Back Your Ex and Mend Your Broken Heart

The only thing you want is to get love back in your life. To do that, you need a way to win back your ex so you can mend your broken heart. But how? He didn't just break your heart, he stomped all over it. Now, you're putting on a brave face, but friends are beginning to suspect the truth; they may even be saying "He never deserved you" and telling you about this cute guy in their office. When all you really want and all you can think about is Him. And your sad, broken heart. So why he hasn't returned any of your calls or answered your texts and emails? Why he doesn't turn up at any of the same places (your places) anymore? Why does he hardly ever want to see you. Is he avoiding you? Because this isn't the way it was supposed to be.

You were a couple, happy together. Even talking about marriage; kids maybe. Buying a house. You really thought he was about to propose. But that was then. Now it's 2 a.m., and you've had a few drinks, but you can't sleep. The bed's too big, and too empty, with all that space where he should be. So you reach for your phone... OK, I know you've been told before about drunk dialing, but let's hit Pause and think about this for a moment, because maybe he won't still respect you (and it's fairly likely you won't still respect yourself) if you go ahead and make that call. And it's just about certain that your relationship won't have a hope of a chance by morning. So, what could you do instead to get love back and keep it? Ask almost any guy friend and he'd give you this advice: Back off. Give your man some space. If it seems to you that everything you do just pushes your ex even further away, you're probably right, so change what you do. That is, if you want to have a future together.

Here's What Not To Do To Win Back Your Ex

  1. Calling, emailing, texting, asking his friends about him and everything else he may think of as relationship pressure.
  2. Being needy or clingy, whining, smothering and mothering are all turn-offs to men.
  3. So is anything that signals desperation.

Here's Your Fresh New Approach to Get Love Back

  1. Stop all communication with him. ALL of it. Don't call, don't ask about him, nada.
  2. Instead, ramp up your own life. Go out with friends, sign up for a course, go on a vacation with girlfriends, do all the things you used to enjoy BH, before Him.
  3. And, since you have time, take up a new hobby or interest - something completely new to you.
  4. Most importantly - stay busy. No nights mooning around your apartment, wishing there was something on TV. Join a gym (or use the membership you already have). Take in a festival. Volunteer for any worthy cause. Spend more time with friends and family. Get a part-time job and put the money aside for something really special and meaningful to you, the person and not just you, half of a couple.

Is it easy to get love back when your ex no longer loves you? No, it's not. And the truth is, it might not be possible. But you can't know that without trying to do what actually works for most couples, can you? Either way, you must pull yourself together and take action in order to be happier with your own life. Those same actions will help you attract other people to share it - possibly including your ex.

The method I learned to get love back is that it is absolutely necessary to give them some space just after the break-up. And it makes so much sense, because if you're no longer always there, he might (finally) notice he misses you as much as you miss him. He'll be curious about how you are, who you're out with, what you're doing. He'll be calling you. Which is totally different than the sad 2 a.m. scenario, isn't it? You'll be on his mind, you'll be in a 'new,' more interesting life, and you'll be the mystery girl he wants to be closer to, just like when you first fell in love. To get love back, you need a smart plan of exactly what to do (and not do) and you need to put it in action, starting now.

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Relationship is a fragile bond that when it's broken, the process of mending can be much more difficult than creating it in the first place. Sometimes it's an extremely difficult task to sort out all the problems and get back together with your ex. No matter how many times you come up with different reasons and approaches, your ex does not seem to change the decision to leave you. If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing your ex's decision about the breakup, click here!

Let me show you exactly what to do to salvage your relationship and rekindle the lost love one more time…even if you're the only one trying…and even if the situation seems hopeless. Head over now to Get Your Ex Back Secrets

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