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How To Save A Marriage With A Depressed Spouse (How To Cope When Your Spouse Is Depressed)

If you're wondering how to save a marriage with a depressed spouse, then you're probably going through a ton of terrible stress right now. It's not fun, and I'm truly sorry for what you have to go through. This article will show you exactly how to cope when your spouse is depressed.

By Zara VeraPublished about a year ago 6 min read
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We all know that marriages have their ups and downs, but what if your spouse seems to be ALWAYS down? Are they depressed, or is something else going on? While odd behaviors are sometimes thought to be depression, they may not be. Here are some tips to help you in assessing if your spouse is depressed.

Have you noticed that your spouse has been moody lately? Mood changes, happy sad, angry, etc. that change often is a sign of depression.

Is your spouse sleeping alot, or not at all? Depression causes many changes in our mind and body, and drastically affects everything a depressed person does. Sleep patterns are one of the first things that doctors look for when assessing depression.

What about your spouse's appetite? Some people with depression eat non-stop. They just can't seem to stop eating. Others never want to eat. They have to force themselves to eat, even the smallest thing, because they have no appetite at all.

Loss of interest in what they love. If your spouse used to love to fish, cook, play games, or had a favorite hobby, and just doesn't want to do it anymore, that is another big sign of depression. A depressed person simply has no desire to do much of anything.

Felling worthless. Depressed people often feel like they're not good enough for anyone. They feel unloved and unwanted, for no reason at all. They withdraw from family and friends, and people at work. Sometimes the depression gets so bad that the depressed person cannot function enough to work.

If your spouse seems to stare into space alot, and sit on the couch or lay in bed. If they don't notice what is going on around them, or not seeming to care. If they put on a lot of weight all of a sudden, or lose a lot of weight. These are all signs of depression. This list goes on and on.

Depression causes many problems in marriages, usually because one spouse doesn't know that their spouse is depressed. They think that their spouse just doesn't care anymore, or isn't happy in the marriage anymore. This causes the non-depressed spouse to become angry or hurt, and it usually causes arguments.

When assessing a depressed spouse, get them to see a doctor. Depending on the severity of the depression, your family doctor can prescribe medicine to treat it. When you have a depressed spouse, bear with them. You did nothing to cause this - no one did. Support your spouse in every way that you can, and know that this is an illness - it can be treated, and your spouse can be the person that you married again.

Living With a Depressed Spouse - A Case Study of a Couple Learning to Live With Depression

Living with a depressed spouse isn't easy. Sometimes you get so angry that you want to rip your hair out. Other times you cry because you just don't know how to help them. This article will help you to understand what your spouse is going through, and will give you some tips to make your life a little bit easier.

Depression is one of those things that can start gradually, and become worse and worse. Or, it can appear out of nowhere. One day, your spouse is fine, the next they're not. When you're tying to live like this, it can wear you down fast. Not only that, it can destroy your marriage.

I'll tell you about a couple I've recently helped. I'll call them John and Mary.

Mary was a housewife. She was always happy, energetic, and loved to do things with the family. John went to work every day, to provide for the family. John always thought they had a good relationship - they talked together, they laughed together, they cried together. They completed each other.

One day, John came home to his wife siting on the couch. The house was a mess, the kids were running around screaming and playing. There was no dinner being cooked. It seemed like he walked into someone else's house.

He looked at Mary, and saw she had been crying. He asked her what was wrong, and she said 'nothing'.

Although he didn't want to, he left her alone and went to cook dinner for her and the kids. He thought maybe Mary was just tired and needed a break.

Mary wasn't hungry. All she wanted to do was sit and watch tv.

As the days went on, this continued. She also got worse. After years of marriage, Mary was turning into someone completely different than who John married. She wanted to sleep all the time. She wasn't taking care of the kids or the house. Every time John tried to talk to her, she'd get mad and say nothing was wrong.

John finally had enough. He talked to a few friends at work, trying to figure out what was happening to their marriage. A friend of his suggested that Mary was depressed. John was flabbergasted. 'Depressed? What does she have to be depressed about?' His friend told him that depression sometimes just happens. Chemicals in the brain sometimes stop working, and it happens.

He suggested that John take his wife to see a doctor. She refused to go to a 'nut doctor', so he talked her into seeing their doctor. He would go with her - he told her that maybe it wasn't her, maybe something was wrong with HIM.

Mary thought about it, and eventually went. The doctor immediately knew what was wrong. She was suffering with depression. There is no reason why it happened. The doctor suggested she take some medicine for a while - just to see if it would help.

Shortly after she started taking it, things began to improve. She started doing things around the house again. She started talking to John again, and she started to get her appetite back. John was no longer afraid that he was losing her.

He no longer dreaded going home, afraid of what he may find when he got there. He no longer had to figure out what was going on - where his devoted and loving wife went. Even though he didn't understand it, and didn't want to believe that it could happen in his family, he now knows that depression can happen to anyone, at any time.

A little while later, everything was back to normal. Living with a depressed spouse is hard. Very hard, especially when you don't know what to do. But learn from John and Mary. Support your spouse. Love them. That is all you have to do to save your marriage, when your spouse is suffering with depression.

It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?

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