How to navigate race while dating: top 5 tips

One of the reasons so many singles gravitate towards dating sites is because they offer a haven from real-world issues. People often judge others based on skin colour, or sexual orientation. When you go online, you can be choosy about the websites you choose to register with. If you are into interracial relationships, you can opt for websites where you will only ever be introduced to others on your wavelength. Race can still be a sensitive issue, so here are some pointers towards ensuring you enjoy a hassle-free online dating experience.

Get acquainted with diverse outlets

There are so many websites out there, you can afford to ‘shop around’ before committing to any particular site. Generic dating resources might offer a variety of headings or search filters when you are looking for potential dates, and these can cover a variety of topics – Hispanic gay relationships, interracial relationships, black dating – the permutations are virtually limitless. There are also platforms specifically catering to people seeking partners from one background. So many different demographics are drawn to the convenience of online dating. Compared to White daters, Black daters tend to have more inclusive and progressive thinking about race and dating, and this is especially true for Black women. And one of the most convenient things about dating site is that they offer free registration, so you can check out what’s on offer before completing any application form.

Do some preliminary research

Perhaps one of the first hurdles anyone will face when dating someone from a differing ethnic background is not knowing about aspects of their culture. But we live in a world where we can source a lot of basic information and widespread general knowledge within a few keystrokes. For example, say you find yourself attracted to Latinos. Before making contact with other singles who have identified as being ‘Latino,’ try learning about their background. Find out how important family or religion might be to them. Latin America and Latino countries in Southwestern Europe tend to have a majority Roman Catholic population, meaning your prospective partner might have conservative values. Much as people, especially younger individuals, tend to be secular and more forward-thinking, better to be prepared!

‘Dip your toes’ into chat rooms

If you’re at all apprehensive about steering your way around the potential minefield of race issues, chat rooms are a good place to get acquainted with a cross-section of individuals. Most dating sites will offer these facilities, together with forums, where you can introduce yourself to people from all over the world. Get involved in group discussions, and if you have particular issues to raise, this environment is where you can feel encouraged to broach sensitive subjects. Perhaps you are interested in meeting a Muslim girl and need to know about the differences between sects (Shia or Sunni), or what behavior would be expected during festivals like Ramadan. Ditto Hindus, Buddhists, or any other belief system that might be practiced by someone from a different race.

Make the most of communication features

Modern dating services offer so many ways to touch base with other site users. The more you text, email, phone, or video chat individuals who might hail from a different cultural background, the more relaxed you will become about interracial relationships, and the greater your confidence will grow.

Just be yourself!

Lastly, try not to get too hung up about worrying you might offend someone you are chatting to. The desire to observe politically correct sensibilities can sometimes create a climate where you feel the need to tread cautiously. But most people will make allowances when interacting in the online environment. The key piece of advice is simply to relax and connect with the person before taking their ethnicity into account.