How to Get Over a Breakup Fast According to Psychology

Breakups are always tough. It doesn't matter if it ends on good terms or with someone ugly crying all night. That's me. I'm someone.

There are hundreds of self-help posts on getting over a breakup. Although the most common is a relationship, there are dozens of breakups that we can live.

Have you lost a job that you loved? Did you see how slowly a friendship grew apart? Did your favorite band retire?

Breakups have effects on our brain similar to those of any traumatic situation. Before you go shopping for crystals that align with your chakras, read these psychological tips to deal with your breakup.

1. Feel your feelings

Usually, in situations like these, we tend to stay distracted. This is to avoid dealing head-on with our emotions.

This is a very common mistake. Your emotions are there and they will hit without a doubt, repressing them will only make it happen at the worst moment.

Do you prefer crying in the comfort of your bed or waiting in line at the grocery store?

Don't try to fool yourself. Face how you feel, live it, experience it, don't deny it. Cry if you must cry, as it is highly therapeutic.

2. Rediscover who you are

When two people are in a relationship for a long time, their identities inevitably get mixed up.

By spending so much time together, people begin to create codes and even their own language. This happens even with friends.

When you end a relationship, it is normal to feel like an incomplete half.

It is time to remember who you are. Sure you have several pending things that you never did, it is a good opportunity to start.

Goals to be met. Projects to be completed. Everything you have paused, try to take it back.

3. Find new hobbies

When you're in a relationship, we usually don't try new things on our own. We focus more on couple activities and don't allow ourselves to discover new hobbies.

Certificate as a skydiver. Take Korean classes. Swim with white sharks off the coast of Australia.

Maybe you don't have to go to the extreme, but go ahead and try new things.

When you try new hobbies you will meet new people with things in common. It is a great opportunity.

4. Reconnect with friends and family

I hope you're not one of those who abandon their friends when they have a new partner. But in case you are, it's time to get friendships back.

Just kidding.

But your loved ones will be there for you, either to see your ugly crying (again: me) or just to accompany you and hang out with you.

I'm sure that you have ever had to comfort a friend for a breakup. Well, they are also willing to do it for you.

Remember that you are surrounded by people who love and care about you. Don't isolate yourself, you don't have to go through this alone.

5. Move on

Yes, it sounds obvious, but it is the hardest part.

It doesn't matter that you do all the above points if at the end of the day you are still holding on to what ended.

Accept that it is over, if it was a job, it's time to find a new one. If we are talking about a love breakup, it is time to change the relationship status of Facebook.

You must take concrete actions that tell your brain that it is time to move on. Return their things that were left at your house, delete the photos from your phone, and stop texting them at 2 a.m.

It is time to create distance and start moving forward. I know it can be difficult, but as the old saying goes: there are plenty of fish in the sea.

In case you're not good with metaphors, that means there are more people in the sea.

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