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How to Find a Decent Partner for a Lasting Relationship

better shot at creating something beautiful

By Happy Life OfficialPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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If you’re wondering how to find a decent partner, you should do three different things to make sure that you have the best possible chance of being in a healthy relationship with someone who will treat you right.

The first one involves working on yourself and your relationship with yourself first.

At the same time, the second helps you figure out what kind of person would be compatible with your needs, and the third one has to do with finding people who already have those traits and making sure they’re interested in dating you.

Follow these steps, and you’ll have a better shot at creating something beautiful!

Keep an open mind

An old, often-quoted saying is that you should keep your eyes open and your mouth shut when searching for love and romantic partners.

When you focus on what you want, you are less likely to spot someone who fits your criteria because they don’t necessarily fit your mental image of what you’re looking for.

Open yourself up to different types of people by relaxing your standards, speaking up more, and asking other people questions instead of assuming that they have nothing interesting or valuable to say.

Meeting new people is always an opportunity.

Approach it that way and see where it takes you!

You never know if someone will become something extraordinary in your life until you reach out with an open mind.

Don’t be picky

It’s easy to get set on finding the one as quickly as possible.

In theory, it’s an admirable goal—to find someone who is not only compatible with you but also a good person.

In practice, though, it’s a recipe for disaster. This mindset tends to lead us toward others similar to us in terms of character and personality traits.

And, when we find someone like that, we think we’ve seen Mr./Ms. Right. But, if you look at your relationships with your friends or family members, you might notice that they aren’t perfect matches either.

You can love them just fine without being their soulmate (and vice versa).

So why do we expect our romantic partners to be any different?

The sooner you can accept that no one will be your soulmate (and vice versa), the sooner you can stop looking for perfection and start looking for compatibility.

Face your fears

Fear is one of those things that make people do irrational things.

And finding a partner can be scary and quite overwhelming.

Before you even think about how you’re going to find love, stop and consider whether or not you’re ready.

  • Are you emotionally prepared for a serious relationship?
  • Are you prepared to invest time in another person?

Don’t give your heart away too quickly because falling in love will bring up feelings of joy, but it can also stir up old fears and anxieties, which could hold you back from moving forward with someone new.

Make sure that fear isn’t what keeps holding you back from having your happy ending!

Date Online

Online dating is another option.

It’s fast, easy, and comes with some great perks.

The best part about online dating is that you can do it from the library, your living room, or even your local coffee shop.

To find a decent partner, you should look for websites known for providing quality matches; an easy way to find out is by checking out reviews on reputable sites like Yelp and Zagat.

You can read first-hand accounts of people who have tried out specific services and compare them based on what you’re looking for on these sites.

Know what you are looking for in terms of personality, interests, etc

The first thing you have to do when looking for a decent partner is to figure out what you are looking for in general.

What are your hobbies, interests, and personality like?

Figure out what type of person will be able to complement them and who will help you grow as an individual.

This process can take time; allow yourself time to think it through and communicate with those around you about how they feel certain people would impact your life. You may even want to consider joining an online dating site or app that can connect you with similar people if that’s something you’re interested in doing.

Do not rush into anything

Looking online doesn’t mean you should immediately jump into anything. Before meeting up with someone from an online dating site, please get to know them through email, text, or phone.

You can also ask mutual friends for feedback about your date or get an unbiased opinion from other people on their first dates.

You don’t want to end up in a bad relationship for you simply because it seemed like it was too good not to be true.

You may have heard of love at first sight, but love and relationships are more complex than just chemistry.

They take time and effort, so give them both rather than jumping in half-heartedly.

View dating as less about finding the one and more about meeting quality people

So how do you go about finding someone decent?

You might never be able to find the one, but if you can find someone decent, it doesn’t matter if they are your soulmates.

Don’t focus on finding Mr. or Ms. Right; instead, focus on meeting people who are worthwhile and genuine.

You never know where that could lead...so even if it doesn’t result in a marriage proposal, at least you’ll have friends!

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Happy Life Official

I write about relationships, health, happiness, and much more to ease your life routine.

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