How To Become Irresistible To Your Ex (How To Make Your Ex Desperately Want You Back)

Before I get into the 3 simple steps to becoming irresistible to your ex, I will quickly cover the strategies that rarely ever work (outside of certain movies).

Strategies that hardly ever work...

*Feeling sorry for yourself. Everyone does it. But if you're gong to win back your ex you need to get over it. Act happy, even if you aren't right now.

*Proclamation of love. Saying "I Love you" over and over reeks of neediness, and not only will your ex not take you back, they will start to look down on you as a desperate loser.

*Promising to change. "Things will be different this time, I've changed." Appeals to the logic. When the heart is what makes all the decisions (see further down).

*Cajoling, scheming. Almost always seen as the manipulation that it really is. And even if you meet with success, it will be short-lived.

*Ignoring reality. The reality is, that what you've been doing up to this point has not worked. Continuing to do the same is ignoring the reality of real world relationships and will doom you to failure.

OK, now that you know what doesn't work. Here is a simple three-step process that works in the real world.

This is not common knowledge. In fact, the few people who know these strategies very rarely (if ever) experience a break-up unless it was their idea in the first place.

One thing I do want to mention though, through all of this. You need to forget your ego. Forget trying to protect yourself from rejection. It's not easy, but what result do you really want here? Do you want to massage your ego and feel justified in your loneliness and depression? Or do you want to get back together with your ex?

Relax! Have fun. This is not the worst thing that could happen to you.

There is an important psychological point in play here (and I've talked about this before in other articles) and it's that when you absolutely HAVE TO win (get your ex back) you tighten up. You'll become desperate. You'll get anxious and end up pushing your ex further away.

I.e. you end up not getting the end result you want.

The key is to stop caring so much! You (and everyone else) are under the impression given by movies that you have to give up your life for another person, that you have to care, and show that you care for them.

Isn't that what you've been doing and saying?

But what has reality shown you?

To get the result you want... you have to stop really caring if you get it or not.

Whew!

So take a step back. Take a wider view. One relationship is not the end of the world.

So what is step one in the process of becoming irresistible to your ex?

Step one - Stop Needing Your Ex

It's what we've just been talking about. You need to stop caring so much. Stop needing your ex.

Distract yourself with other activities if you have to. Spend the time you would normally spend with them, with friends, or doing something you enjoy. But above all, keep in mind that one relationship is not the end of the world. You've been single before, it's really no big deal.

Once you've got this down, we can move on to step two...

Step Two - What To Do When You Interact With Your Ex

Very rarely do people ever have an absolutely clean break. You will most likely have some contact with your ex - maybe they are picking up their stuff from your place, maybe you bump into them at the grocery store, at work, or at a bar. Hey, they might even call, email or text you to complain about you (good sign by the way).

Here are the rules to follow every time you come in contact:

*No complaining

*No arguing

*No criticizing

*Remain happy and accepting

*No pressure for them to do anything

*Absolutely NO serious talk - if they initiate it, brush it off and keep it light

One of the common pieces of advice I hear all the time is that you shouldn't call. I don't agree with this. You can call if you like. Just as long as you follow the rules above.

Immediately after a break-up, your ex is feeling pretty negatively towards you. The thing is, negative feelings need something in you to fight against. By following the above rules, you're removing all of that resistance. Very soon your ex will start to think of you in a different light.

The key to step two is to be consistent. You can't follow the rules one day, and then slip back to your natural responses the next.

After a while your ex will become less negative towards you. Then it's time to start focusing on step three...

Step Three - Winning The Heart

People falsely believe that winning back an ex is a matter of overcoming problems with the relationship in a logical, rational way.

But the real reason for a relationship break-up is nearly always (at its root cause) that their positive feelings towards you outweigh the negative.

Step two is about reducing those negative feelings.

Now we need to start increasing the positive feelings.

I don't have room to go into great detail right here in this article.

But here are the most important things you can do to build those positive feelings. To build that attraction back up to a fever pitch.

A) Make sure there is something in your life that is more important to you than your ex. Something you are passionate about - or at least enjoy doing. Make that the focus of your activities. Do not back getting back together your number one goal.

B) Be willing to walk away. With your ex, or with anyone else, if they are showing a lack of respect or wanting you to do something that doesn't agree with you. Be willing to stand up for yourself. Have some backbone. And ultimately, be willing to walk away if you don't get the respect you deserve.

C) Stop trying to prove yourself to others (especially your ex). In this game, you are the prize. So take pride in yourself, take care of your body, dress well. And truly believe that your ex would be lucky to have you back in their life.

D) Have fun. I mean it. No one wants to be around a sad sack. So enjoy yourself, and stop taking everything so seriously.

E) And last but not least, have patience. Don't feel like you need to get back together straight away. Know that you'll win them back. Patience in a person is a sure sign of self-confidence and nothing is more attractive than that.

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