How Do I Talk To My Ex Girlfriend After A Long Time (What To Say To Your Ex Girlfriend After A Long Time)

The desire to get your ex-girlfriend back is very similar to the desire to find a new job: it's both about seeking a passion that makes life worthwhile. Also, both the things I mentioned can be designated as "auditions": if you perform well, you pass. And if you don't, you won't be hired.

Seeing that the process of getting an ex back is an audition, you need to prepare. You need to perfect yourself to impress the final judge, your ex-girlfriend. You can't just rush back to your girlfriend and scream "I love you and I need you! Will you take me back?" NO! It's not as easy as that. Your ex-girlfriend will make you work hard to even have another try. It requires a lot of time and dedication, and I'm here to tell you what you should do before you profess to your ex-girlfriend that you want to give your relationship another try.

1) Focus on why you need her back.

Any cliché reason such as you "love her" won't be accepted. Yes, you love her, we all know that. All men love their women. That's not enough. Your reason should be specific to your relationship. It should be specific to her. It should have a deep, personal meaning for you and for the relationship you've had with her in the past. Give your ex-girlfriend a reason why you are the man for her. Saying you love her won't definitely cut it. You need to have something raw and real.

2) Consider the advantages if she takes you back.

Be conceited for a while and ask yourself, "What can my girl get from me that she won't get from another man?" It doesn't matter what, as long as you can see her living a happier life with you, then you're on the right track. It means you're not trying to take her back out of necessity, loneliness or spite.

Conversely, ask yourself, "What has this woman have to offer to me?" If you believe she can provide you fulfillment, support, and happiness in the long term, then it's more than sufficient reason to get your girl and your relationship again.

3) Be honest.

How many times have you read the importance of honesty in any given social situation? It still would ring true in this case! Just be honest! Just let your feelings flow. Whatever it is that is inside your heart, be prepared to say it. However, that doesn't mean you have to say EVERY single thing that comes into your mind. That is where the matter of discretion comes into play. You must be able to learn when to shut up, and how to avert conversations that will only lead to more and more fights.

Remember, just be honest and tactful, and you're good to go.

4) Keep your message short, yet intense.

In time, you will be able to talk to your ex-girlfriend once she consents. If that time comes, you have to be prepared. You must be able to say "I want to be with you again" in less than a minute. That being said you will need to memorize your line. Just keep it short, don't give out a lot of promises, and just let her know that you are willing to do whatever it takes just to save your relationship.

How to Talk to Your Ex Girlfriend and Do It All Correctly

Talking to your ex girlfriend is dicey to say the least. As every word you utter will be put under a microscope and analyzed closely. What you say, why you say and how you say will determine if she wants to give you another chance. Here is how you should approach this tricky situation.

Time it right

You can't just pick up the phone and make a call and begin speaking as if nothing has happened between the two of you. If your breakup was messy then she will be hurting and will not easily want to speak to you and therefore you need to give her some time to cool off. Once she has time to think over the issue she will no longer have bitter feelings towards you and it will be easier for her to talk to you.

Have a damn good excuse

The first call should always be for something that she has an interest in. You may call her and tell her that you have something she might be interested in and want it delivered to her. Ask her if she would accept it. However, send her something she is really passionate about.

Now call her sporadically

In all likelihood if she is truly impressed with your surprise gift she will call you back and thank you. If she does call you, have a brief chat and leave it at that. Don't begin pestering her with your calls. After a considerable gap make a courtesy call and check on her. She will be glad that you still care for her.

Don't rake up the old issues

As you begin to reconnect with her, don't bring up the old issues, either good or bad; this relationship has to be treated as a brand new one. However make the conversations pleasant and keep her in good spirits when you talk. She should feel happy after your call.

Be a genuine well-wisher

If she has already moved on and has begun dating someone else then sound happy for her. Don't let your disappointment show and don't ask her for intimate details. This should prove how mature you are about the whole thing.

Ask her out as a friend

She will surely not be tagging her new friend all the time and when she is free ask her out as a friend. During this unofficial date impress her with your gentlemanly behavior. Show her that you have changed as a person.

Keep the faith

Whenever you get time and whenever she is available keep meeting her. Once she gets really comfortable meeting you alone then one fine day spring a surprise on her by confessing your feelings. By now she will have begun to like you and if you are lucky she might even consider giving you another chance.

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