Highlife Adventures: How to Transform Dating into an Adventure During the New Year

Highlife Adventures (http://www.highlifeadventures.com) offers these five dating tips to singles in Chicago and Indianapolis who have resolved to meet other singles – including potential mates – during the New Year.

For many of the 92 million adult singles in the U.S., the dawn of the New Year is accompanied by resolutions to get back into the dating game and find a mate. Yet according to Mary Vallone, President of Highlife Adventures, an upscale social club for singles in Chicago and Indianapolis, people are often jaded – if not downright cynical – about dating. "Everyone has horror stories about dates gone bad, but most negative experiences occur because people are looking for dates in the wrong places," she says. "With a bit of direction and a dose of common sense, having a rich and rewarding social life is almost guaranteed." Here are some tips for dating singles for the new year.

1. Indulge Your Passions

If you have a hobby or a pastime you enjoy, get together with others who share your interests. "You're much more likely to meet compatible people if you already have something in common," notes Vallone. "Not only will there be fewer uncomfortable silences, but your personality will shine when you share your enthusiasm and experiences."

2. Try Something New

If you're the type of person who is always up for an outdoor adventure, expand your horizons by joining a group to go kayaking, caving, or parasailing. "We schedule over 65 activities each month at Highlife Adventures, which allows our members to dip their toes in the waters of new experiences," says Vallone. "Those who enjoy culture can go to the symphony, while those who revel in the nightlife can opt for a moonlight party cruise."

3. The More, the Merrier

Whether your goal is to simply expand your social network or to meet Mr. or Ms. Right, traditional dating won't get you there. Instead, Vallone advises that you opt for group activities comprised solely of singles. "Today, people don't have the time for sequential one-on-one dating," she says. "Our recipe for success is to provide unique, fun events where singles can let their guard down and meet many people with whom they have something in common."

4. Ensure Your Safety

"Many singles have had perilous experiences on first dates," notes Vallone. "Unfortunately, you can't automatically trust people who you meet online, in a bar, or even through friends." This is one reason why Highlife Adventures prescreens potential members in person and ensures that a company representative attends each event. Vallone advises singles who are on their own to meet your date in a public place, to let a friend know where you'll be, and not to divulge too much personal information. "On a first date, the person you're out with is essentially a stranger," she says. "You need to be careful and always follow your instincts."

5. Put Down the Mouse

While online dating has its appeal, Vallone says that it's no substitute for personal interaction. "It's time to put down the mouse and get out of the house," she says emphatically. "If you've resolved to meet new people, you need to do it face-to-face."

First of all you need to write a good profile, one that will catch people’s attention. Women for example should avoid the pitfall of mentioning sex; it will lead to the wrong kind of responses. Men should write about themselves and not just what they are interested in e.g. football.

Please try to remember what you are trying to gain out of dating; a long term relationship. Therefore be prepared to put some effort into your profile, a little work at the outset will make it so much easier to attract the right sort of person for you. Try to identify your traits, are you a naturally happy person, are you outgoing or shy? Try to give your prospective date some real information about your character. If you have a particular hobby or something you enjoy doing, for example – cooking, let them know about it.

People often ask if they should include a photo with their profile. I would advise that it is best that you should include both a full length photo and a close up one. But please remember to make that recent ones! Don’t be tempted into including a 10 year old photo because you will get caught out! It is a fact however that dating profiles that include photos attract more responses than those without; I guess people like to see what they are getting!

So, once you have got a date, what should you do and what are the no no’s?

Men – tips for you…

Listen to what the woman is saying and take an interest; ask her questions on what she is talking about. Try to ask questions that encourage conversation rather than just a yes or no answer. For example, you could ask what was it about a book that made them like it rather than ‘did you like the book?’

Never talk about your previous relationships; it’s not something she wants to hear about!

Always tell the truth on a date, if you don’t it will catch up with you somewhere down the line!

Don’t go overboard on the Dutch courage! A couple of drinks to be sociable are ok but don’t get drunk – you won’t make a good impression. You make think your telling the funniest jokes and talking perfectly normally but believe me, you aren’t! I know because my wife tells me so!

On to the tips for the ladies!

Try and compliment the man –he will love you for it. Praise him for what he is good at and don’t criticize him over his bad points.

Try to be positive when talking with him; don’t discuss your previous relationships in detail.

Be confident. Men are attracted to confident women. There subconsciously feel that a confident woman has the ability to attract men more easily than a not so confident woman, so the fact you are with him will flatter him!

Keep eye contact for that little bit longer than normal. This is a sure fire sign for the man that you are interested in him, but subtle.

Hope this helps....

Derrick Edwards CEO- WHOLYLIT LLC

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I WISH YOU THE BEST OF GREAT LUCK IN YOUR SEARCH FOR LOVE.