HEAR ME OUT! What to Do with Emotions

I say unpopular opinion, but I hope that after reading this, some of you will understand my point of view, and perhaps even share it. I'm calling this series "Hear Me Out!" (but, like, in all caps) and it's going to be about anything that I observe that I think should change. Please note that this is just a way for me to vent and share my opinions, and most certainly won't be written to intentional offend anyone or hurt their feelings. I merely want to propose another outlook/opinion that you can either consider or cast aside after reading. Anyways, thank for being here!

Everyone talks about confiding in certain people about their problems and strife because it's a way to release stress. An output to put it simply. And they're right. It's physically and mentally beneficial to converse with someone other than yourself about things that trouble you. But there's always a limit. Apparently, a lot of people don't realise where that limit is exactly.

If you're talking about your problems to your friend every time you meet each other, that friendship is bound to come to an end. It's basic human nature to gravitate towards stressless scenarios. If every time they see you, and you have a serious problem to talk about, that most likely will cause them to be stressed with you and thus, your friendship will come to a close.

First, let's define, "serious problem." A serious problem is something that requires full consideration and careful thinking. Some examples would include dating or marriage problems, domestic violence, mental or physical illnesses etc. If it's just about "minor problems" like that, troll on the internet that pissed you off, or that person that cut you off in traffic, or how intense rehearsal was the other day, then that's okay. Of course, don't constantly complain about the minor problems too much either if the others can't relate. That will have the same negative effect as the "serious problem" part. The point is, your friend should not be there only to be convenient. Don't just dump your problems on a person, who you consider to be a friend, and not except some back lash from them at some point in time. Your friendship WILL go down the drain, slowly but surely.

PLEASE NOTE: If you have serious problems, I'm not telling you to bottle them up and endure the stress alone. Gosh, no. Don't do that. Ever. I'm saying don't dump all your problems on ONE person as if that person was your personal trashcan. That's abusing your friend, and you're not friends if you're abusing them. For someone to be your friend, they need to go through your happiest AND saddest moments with you. Have a good time with them AND confide your problems with them. The reason someone would want you to be happy and would want you to confide in them in the first place is because they know how you are when you're happy, and them want that to continue. They want you to be embodied with as much joy and happiness as possible (I've really overused the word "happiness," haven't I?). Take the picture below as reference. It’s convenient to have someone around to complain to all the time, but that’s not true friendship, so the same can be said in this case. If you don’t want to lose a friend. I'm not sure if I'm getting my message across correctly, but the quote underneath does a nice job of summarising my train of thought.

In this case (applying the quote to my thoughts), it's "convenient" to have someone to dump all your problems on, but just like the quote suggests, that isn't true friendship.

Finally, if you've made it through to this last excerpt, and you're thinking to yourself, "geez, I must be a real burden to my friends," or something along those lines, chances are, it's NOT true. If you have fun with your friends, they know exactly what problems you're experiencing, and they make you forget your problems, if only for a while, then they have accepted all aspects of you. Meaning, even though you confined in them a lot, you guys have fun together, and they would do anything to keep you happy because THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS. Anything less is not friendship worthy. Just don't abuse other people and solely use them as your outlet, because that's a crappy move and they don't deserve that.

I have no idea if this has made any type of sense, or if I conveyed my feelings and opinions on this topic well enough, but I do hope that this has enlightened someone somewhere.