Ghosting in Relationships

Ghosting in today's world is disappearing without a trace, no phone calls, no texts, no Facetiming to let you know what's up. It's heartbreaking and at first you think they'll call and sometimes you let your pride go and text them but no answer. That's what ghosting is, then you figure something came up or they are at working and their phone is on mute. But the reality is that they don't have the decency to let you know its over. I've been ghosted before too many times. I been ghosted by a ex boyfriend after I paid his phone bill, by another ex boyfriend who flirted with one of my friends at my birthday party, my daughter's father who I recently found out is serving in the military and will be home for Thanksgiving. And last but not least my current boyfriend soon to be ex who works two jobs and thinks it's my fault we don't spend time together. And hopefully my story will help someone not be stupid when it comes to guys.

So i'll start with the first ex, funny story I was currently in school and just got a job at Kroger I met this 20 something year old on Facebook who slid in my Facebook messages while I was only 18. He was cute and had a son.(Side note: All my exes and current boyfriend has children except my baby's father) He was annoying and irritating but he had a good heart. Funny thing is he was overprotective we got into a big argument about me spending money on weed and smoking and going to a Halloween party with my friends instead of paying his phone bill and hanging out with him at his house. Biggest mistake of my life, essentially he was a good guy but he definitely had some major attitude adjustments to my male friends. But I'm getting ff topic we argued, I left with my friends, my phone died and both my mom and him was blowing my phone up worried about where I was, I finally got my phone to charge to call him to pick me up and I got a lecture from him, he dropped me off at my mom's where I received another lecture from her. The next couple of days he didn't text or call me. I found out a year later that he moved to Wisconsin or somewhere up north, found another girl, moved back down here and now he has another little boy, and constantly calls me whenever to say he miss me,he can miss me with that bullshit immediately. And to this day, I have yet to receive a apology from him about our three month relationship that ended to quickly.

The next victim on my list is my ex boyfriend who is a boxer and a model. He models for City Gear you probably seen him dark skin, dreads, nice jaw structure, a wet dream actually but man was he a hoe. I didn't understand then but I would eventually. On my 20th birthday I did nothing I actually celebrated my birthday on New Year's Eve. The day of the party he came earlier to help me and my sister with getting ready. We did a couple of blogs for Instagram and Snap chat. Time skip to the party we started fashionably late and the apartment was crowded, the music so loud that other people started to come that we didn't know, one of my friends(who is now a ex friend) came with three plus ones who I didn't know. It was my mistake to start drinking before the party and not emptying my bladder. So I rush to the bathroom to pee, and get stopped by the so called friend who brought three unwanted guests who starts to flirt with me(I should have flirted back but I didn't because I'm a loyal girlfriend.), anyways I avoid him to find the friend with my ex and of course in a compromising situation,her touching his tattoo of Africa, like girl find someone else, I proceed to walk to the door, I hit her with it and walk outside to get my head straight and to not strangle her. I proceed to make my way back to the apartment where I see her again for the second time with my ex he notices me and starts to explain everything and that I'm his main focus (eye roll to the max). After the party we got into a argument because his boxing buddy and I became best friends overnight. He proceeds to ghost me for the entire of January, Valentine's Day come and I think that I'm special because I have the finest man alive. A 24 year old ruined that for me sending me nude pictures of them in a ratty hotel that has clear tape on the holes in the wall and their texts messages between them concerning me, he denied it all saying he knew and that they were old, I believed him like the dummy I was at twenty. He cheated again with some girl he was bigger then me not that I'm body shaming her but I was skinny at the time and he said his preference was skinny girls-a lie of course. An update on him is he now still with said girl with a one year old daughter let's just say I was not excited at all......sorry not sorry.

My daughter's father is a exception, I got pregnant by him and he was nervous like all men are, but he ghosted me when I needed him the most, I was depressed, I stopped eating at times and because of my religious parents I always received a lecture like a child because of the child I was carrying for this guy. I had researched abortion but it was too late for it, I researched adoption but like the sissy I was I cried every time I thought about giving her up but without her dad I was scared I still had a job until my maternity leave but my mother was set on me getting child support. A year later after I had my daughter A'morea Bella-Grace Edwards-Woodard in May in November of this year he answered the phone. My daughter has started to say dada and it annoys me heavily I always joke well if your saying dada then you should call him. I finally had the nerve to do it and Face time him once I saw it connect I wanted to throw my phone. What do I say, is he with another girl, Is she the one who is answering the phone, I thought of so many scenarios in the three second time span only for him to connect and give me his signature smile and make me almost cry in front of my mom and daughter. To some up the conversation we had he wants to talk about the stupid decision he made and wants me and A'morea to move to Houston with him, I'm definitely thinking about it for sure.

And last but not least, the current boyfriend who thinks I'm crazy enough but not enough where he wants to leave. He got to comfortable he thinks going days without texting me is okay because he has two jobs. Then he voices his concerns and somehow pins the issue on me not giving him a blowjob.....gross but don't judge. Currently he just texted me to say he wanted to nut in me when he knows I don't want another child at this moment especially when he isn't for sure if the child his ex had is his, at this point I think he just wants to play daddy to a child because he's been in prison for four years and just want to do good for the people around him but i'll be damned if this so-called baby mother is playing him. Hopefully we can work something out and if not oh well I always have a backup plan.