Five Signs He Doesn't Want A Relationship

Sometimes it can be difficult for us to know if the person we are interested in is also interested in us. There are sometimes mixed signals or we just aren't sure what they are trying to tell us. Relationships can be difficult to navigate if you are not sure what the relationship is or if there is even a relationship to begin with. So here are five major, telling signs that the guy you are interested in does not really want a relationship with you.

1. His communication goes in and out.

If you are dealing with someone whose communication skills are hot and cold, you likely have someone who isn't always interested. Unless you know they are busy or they communicate that they have something going on, it could easily be a red flag. It's maybe not the only thing to base anything off of, but it is a starting point. Someone who wants a relationship with you will make a point to communicate with you and reach out as much as they can. If not, it's definitely not a good sign. A guy who wants to be in a relationship with you will be excited about talking to through text, on the phone, and even in person. You want someone who pulls you in instead of pushes you further away.

2. He still has baggage from a previous relationship.

If he is still holding on to a previous girlfriend or can't seem to stop talking to her or about her, it's another red flag that he is not interested in having a relationship with you. It might be that he is using you to make her jealous or he's just not ready to move on. Regardless, you don't want to find yourself caught in a situation where you are someone's second choice. If he hasn't fully worked through issues he had in his previous relationship, then he probably isn't going to be ready for a relationship with anyone.

3. He's not meeting you halfway.

If you find that you are always reaching out to him first, always asking to hang out with him first, or always being the one to initiate anything, he probably isn't as interested in you as you are in him. It's never fun and it's not an easy pill to swallow, but sometimes you give more of yourself to someone than they deserve and they don't always give it back to you. So you just have to recognize that they aren't meeting you halfway and it's not anything to do with you, they just don't want a relationship.

4. You don't know his friends or family.

When it comes to being in a relationship with someone, it's always important to know the other people in their life. If you are important to them, they will share that with the other people in their life who matter to them. So if it's been a while and you don't know many, if any, of his friends or family, it probably a sign that he doesn't see you in his life for any extended amount of time. And if you try asking to meet some of his friends and family and he puts it off, it's a good sign that he doesn't want a relationship. If he shows no interest in meeting yours, that's another sign. You want to be with someone who wants to know about all aspects of your life, including the other people in it. You want to be with someone you can share important things with.

5. He says he doesn't want one.

This may seem a bit obvious, but sometimes it's not always as obvious as it seems. Sometimes when someone tells us that they don't want a relationship we try to give it some time and hope they change their mind. Or they say something like, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now", thus stringing us along. So if he says that he doesn't want a relationship, it's a pretty big sign that he just doesn't want one, no matter how unclear or vague it might seem at the time. And even if it's not something you want to hear at the moment, it's something you will eventually have to accept.

All relationships are difficult and can tend to be confusing at times. And trying to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship is even more difficult, especially when they don't tell you. So hopefully this helps make things more clear and shows the signs to look out for when you are unsure as to whether the person you like even wants a relationship at all. And always remember, just because they don't want a relationship doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. It just means that wasn't your person. So just keep waiting and being patient. Trust that your person will enter your life exactly when they are supposed to.