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Fighting With My Husband All The Time (How Can I Stop Fighting With My Husband)

Are you worried about your marriage, saying to yourself why do I keep fighting with my husband all the time? Everyone knows that in every marriage there are fights and troubles. However, sometimes those fights and troubles build up and start threatening the marriage itself. Frankly, there's usually one main reason that causes you to be in a position where you're saying how can I stop fighting with my husband.

By Melody KhloePublished 2 years ago 8 min read

It is normal for couples to argue and get into light fights sometimes. However, to fight all the time is not very healthy for the relationship.

"What should I do when my husband and I fight all the time?"

The reason to fight

What is the reason to fight with your husband? There must be something that both of you are unhappy with. A lot of fights will happen because they just do not want to compromise in the marriage. For example, your husband wants to dominate and win the fight and you also want to dominate your husband. The problem will arise when both do not want to give in.

Respect each other

One of the reasons that you always fight with your husband is because lack of respect in the marriage. Mutual trust and respect is very important in a marriage. Share and discuss your problems and suggestions with your husband. Seek his advice and opinions when it comes to any matter that you cannot resolve. Tell him how you like him to do and improve on this relationship. Spend some time and effort to communicate with him nicely, the misunderstandings will be cleared slowly when both of you are communicating well.

Go for a break

Fighting all the time can be very stressful. Have a break away from him for a while. This will give both of you some time to cool down and think of the problems.

Too dependent or independent

Learn not to be too dependent on your husband or he will take the control over almost everything. He will yell as loud as he wants because he calls the shot at home, giving you very little pride over the things that you want to do. However, you should not be too independent as well. Why? Even if you are a "big" woman at work, you should sometimes act like a "little" woman at home. Men tend to be more egoistic than women. Learn to praise him if he has done something right. A little bit of dependent and yet independent would be good for you.

Refocus Your Marriage

Is marriage what you thought it would be, did you ever realise that it would take so much effort to achieve a happy, loving and fulfilling marriage? So many people go into marriage woefully unprepared and their head stuffed full of unrealistic expectations, once the reality of what they have done starts to bite and the problems start to mount they run for the divorce courts. Before marrying you would have gone on dates, talked for hours about emotions, hopes and dreams, you had fun and you enjoyed each others company. When you stop doing everything that brought and bound you together your bond starts to weaken, unless you do something to redress the balance your marriage will end. So how can you refocus your marriage.

The first thing is that you both have to want your marriage to succeed and you both have to commit to making it work. One person cannot do it alone, you both have an equal responsibility to making it work, if one of you is unwilling then you need to consider whether it is worth carrying on. It is a sad fact of life that not all marriages will work, you could be just to incompatible, if that is the case and your partner agrees then break up as amicably as possible. If there is hope for you then it is time to get talking.

A lack of communication is perhaps the easiest way to destroy a marriage. In order to refocus your marriage you have to be able to share each others lives, know you partners innermost feelings and emotions, be aware of their wants and needs for the marriage and be ready to help deliver them. If you do not talk how are you going to connect with each other? You have to find out what each of you wants from the marriage and the direction that you both see it taking. You might find out that you want completely different things to your partner in which case you both need to come up with a compromise that you can both live with. If you want your marriage to work then you both have to be happy with the future that you are working towards, do not agree with things just for the sake of agreeing or that you do not want to upset your partner. If there are things that you are unhappy with and yet go along with then they could cause problems in the future, they could make you very unhappy, and you could end up adding to the divorce statistics.

If you do not listen to your partner then how do you know when they need you? It can be very difficult to listen to someone when they are speaking to you because your mind is automatically preparing your response. You can pretend to listen and let your mind drift, unfortunately the odds are that your body language will give you away, your partner is unlikely to view this favourably. You should care what your partner is talking about because it is obviously important to them, if you love them and want to help them then listen. If you do not understand or quite follow what is being said then ask questions until you do. It does not take a lot of effort on you part and it means so much to your partner.

Love is a wonderful thing, but if you do not like your partner then how will you survive what could be decades with them? You might think that you do not like your partner, but is that really the case? I am assuming that when you married them you liked them so whatever has happened could be relatively recent, that being the case is it only a temporary thing caused by you current less than blissful marriage? Look at everything that drew you to your partner, look at all the good times that you had with your partner, and most importantly think about all the good times that you could still have with your partner.

You need time to spend together, just you two, no distractions, just time when you can relax in each other company and learn to take pleasure from being with each other all over again. Think of some of the great times that you had when dating, these do not have to stop just because you are married, if anything it is more important that you keep building the shared memories and experiences because they connect you. Just as a lack of communication cuts of contact between you, stopping sharing experiences together gives you no common ground to hold on to. Find new hobbies and interests or share your partners, recreate memorable old dates, go for walks, do charity work, it does not matter what you do so long as you enjoy it and you are doing it together.

One of the best ways to refocus your marriage is in how you deal with problems. Now you can shout and scream at each other, nothing gets achieved and you both feel miserable. Or you can deal with your issues one at a time, calmly and rationally, and look for a solution that you are both happy with. You are two separate individuals so you will never, ever agree with each other all the time, the important thing is that you both work together for a compromise or solution that you can both be happy with. Now that you are married you can no longer afford to just look after your own personal interests, your partner and possibly some children have entered the equation. This is not a competition to see who can win the most arguments, you have to work for what is best for the marriage. If you both work for what is best for the marriage then you will end up with a happy marriage, and although you will still have your squabbles, you will find them far easier to deal with.

There are far to many couples who are prepared to throw in the towel and get divorced rather than really put the work in. Maybe that is a reflection on our consumer driven society, it it is broken then throw it out and get a new one. Maybe not enough people place sufficient value on their marriages? When you marry, you marry for better or for worse. When you hit the bad times that is when you stand together and work through the storm, when you come out through the other side you will come out stronger and more committed because of what you have dealt with. In the bad times you both have to believe in yourselves and in the relationship, whilst it is not always easy you have to stop focusing on the negative things and refocus your marriage on the positive, it is not easy but it is worth it.

Despite what Hollywood, the T.V, magazines and romantic novels tell you, there is not such thing as the perfect marriage. What you get is what you make of it. Love your partner for the unique individual that they are and learn to accept love as well as give it. Do not try and create a marriage based on some fantasy that you have dreamed up, it will not work. Be happy with who you are and do what you can to make your partner happy. Share your lives and learn to enjoy them. Always look at what you can do to help strengthen your marriage. Each and every day hold or kiss your partner and never, ever forget to tell them that you love them.

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