Fear of Being Abandoned - Causes, Symptoms, Healing

Are you always panicking at the thought that your loved one will leave you? Do you experience a feeling of unease or jealousy when someone gets too close to your loved one?

These reactions are almost common in love, but when they become too intense or obsessive, it can be something more serious, that is, a psychological disorder called fear of being abandoned, fear of abandonment, or autophobia.

Autophobia is a pathological fear of being left alone, a somewhat common but very subtle problem that can take its place and expand imperceptibly in your life, bringing you close to the limit of extreme mental or emotional tension.

• Autophobia occurs especially when someone is left to fend for themselves by a loved one. This can happen through the death of that person or through a choice made by that person. In both cases, the fear of abandonment is ingrained in the mind.
• When you lock a child alone in a room, to punish him or for some other reason, he may go through a bitter experience that is about to mark him for fear of being abandoned. It doesn't always happen, but it is possible.
• Persistent remembrance of the discomfort felt by a person when he has been repeatedly left alone can be another source of autophobia.

The main symptoms of autophobia are:

• The need to always be surrounded by people. Apparently, this behavior seems to be due to the friendly or extroverted nature, but sometimes it is a sign that a person is always trying to make sure that he is not alone. Often, this symptom is accompanied by the need to "cling" to close people, to suffocate them by insisting on being with them all the time, which often causes them to move away from that person.
• Panic. Someone affected by autophobia becomes panicked by the slightest communication error, by the fact that he did not answer a phone call or an SMS. In this case, the person is in a hurry to come to the conclusion that something is wrong, that the person who searched for her will leave her, will not care about her, and will not contact her.
• Blackmail. A person obsessed with the fear of being abandoned sometimes resorts to sentimental or other blackmail, even when it comes to small things or events. The reply "if you leave me, I will commit suicide" is characteristic of someone marked by autophobia, who would say almost anything to prevent separation from someone close.
• An autophobic person is always very obliging or helpful. She would do almost anything, even the things she hates, to keep someone she loves close to her.
• Frequent change of partners is another deceptive symptom of the fear of being abandoned. In this case, the person marked by this fear prefers to leave rather than be abandoned. In this way, a sentimental connection or an emotional attachment is avoided.
• Someone obsessed with the fear of being abandoned constantly needs to be assured, to be confirmed that people close to him love her. Such a person often asks loving beings questions such as, "Why do you love me?", or "How long do you care about me?"
• The inferiority complex or very weak confidence in one's own value. Autophobic people always doubt their abilities or abilities and rely on others in almost everything they do. They are insecure in their judgment and undecided in critical cases, needing to be suggested or confirmed an idea or a decision.

Fear of abandonment is an anxiety disorder. A person affected by this phobia needs counseling and treatment, but also the will to overcome their fears.

Usually, it is necessary to try to engage in individual activities, during which she must be left alone, but always having an occupation that does not leave her time and space to fall prey to fears. Regular discussions with the loved one can also they will be very helpful.