Emotional intelligence is never about being smart

Many people think that emotional intelligence is eight-sided high emotional intelligence is never eight-sided, on the contrary, behind emotional intelligence is the management of emotions, when you can have the ability to read the management of emotions, we can gain control of the self, as well as an understanding of others.

If we want to become highly emotionally intelligent, we have to actively train ourselves in four areas, then we can naturally become the most popular people.

Pay attention to emotions instead of being controlled by them

Joy and sorrow are common to everyone. People with low emotional intelligence are used to living in a world of their own emotions and are used to being driven by the emotions of others.

From the perspective of our brain development law, the human emotional brain is far more developed than our rational brain, which also determines that we are often the emotional brain first, before the rational brain action process.

The growth of life is a gradual process of understanding ourselves, and emotions are the best magic weapon to help us understand ourselves.

If we want to become masters of emotion management, the most important thing we can do is not to be driven by emotions, but to observe our consciousness and perception.

Rather than simply focusing on emotions, we should focus on the awareness and perception of the emotions behind them, which is the key to our growth.

The nature of emotions is a signal that reminds us of our need to see our growth. For example, if we see that others are doing better than us, it doesn't help us much to grow if we just stay in simple jealousy.

We need to get to see that behind the jealousy is that we need that too, so reading the emotional signals that remind us of where we need to grow is often the key to being able to harness our emotions.

When we read the emotional signals, what we can think about is why the other person can do so well, and we need to be learning from the strengths of others and growing our ambition, which is the best way to transform our emotions and the most important ability we have to improve our emotional intelligence.

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Introspection when emotions are out of control

To become a person with high emotional intelligence and a master of emotion management, it is most important to understand what causes your emotional outbursts.

We need to review the reasons behind our emotional outbursts so that we can find the real emotional buttons. Emotional buttons are the key to triggering our emotional outbursts.

We need to think mindfully about what beliefs and perceptions are triggering our emotional outbursts, and this is the most important emotional review we can do.

Psychology has found that our emotional outbursts are essentially caused by our internal beliefs and perceptions, especially negative beliefs and perceptions that put a lot of pressure on us.

For example, I once found that I was particularly upset when I heard someone criticize me, and then I realized that it wasn't someone else's problem, but mine. I realized that others were criticizing me because I thought they were dismissing me, when in fact, they weren't necessarily dismissing me, but others were just possibly expressing their own opinions.

So what triggers our emotional outbursts may be places within us that have not yet grown, so when you have emotions, you have to be thankful for emotions that remind you that you have a lot of ungrown areas.

When you are emotionally out of control, it is recommended that you can use a journal to record the whole thing. According to psychological findings, writing and recording can help us to relieve the impact of emotions, and more importantly, also allow us to restore inner peace.

When you gradually find ways and means to cope with emotions, the quality of your life will be gradually upgraded, and naturally, your future will be better and better.

Listen with your heart and hear the meaning behind the words

If we want to become a person with high emotional intelligence, we must learn to listen, and behind the listening is our inner heart.

We need to capture the belief system behind the surface behavior of the other party. What causes our emotions or the emotions of others may not be the matter itself, but our belief system behind it.

When we can hear each other's belief systems from their surface words, we can gradually lead each other to focus on more possibilities in a better way.

True socialization is not simply a friendship of people, but an inner, sincere and honest inner interaction. When we learn to listen to others, we must not rush to express our views and opinions, but know how to read what others are expressing.

Listening with your heart, rather than rushing to express your views and opinions, is often the best way to give the other person healing.

Listening is also our ability to read the inner world of others, when you understand the other person's true intentions you can often do a really good job of driving yourself, to avoid losing control of your own emotions, and naturally, you have the ability to emotional peace.

The essence of high emotional intelligence is an ability to echo yourself, but also an ability to echo others, when you know how to echo yourself, and know the inner thoughts of others, we will not be easily controlled by others, but interact positively with the world, both your people and popularity will be better and better.