Do You Receive the Relationship and the Saying That You Receive What You Give?

Have you ever thought about this: in life, in love, and implicitly in couple relationships, do you receive what you give? Or to other old sayings, such as: "the wheel turns", "treat someone the way you want someone else to treat you", "what you get you to deserve", "after the deed and the reward" ?. How much truth is there in these words?

The idea that everything you do will affect you, that everything will return, that every act has repercussions, that you will receive what you have given - how true and how much is the sermon?

At first glance, you may be tempted to say that no, in relationships, in love, and life, you often do not receive what you give. Because it happens that you give everything to a person, and then you don't receive anything in return… except a broken heart.

But there is another old saying: the way you give and the person you give it matter more than what you give! What does this mean? The fact that, even when life seems unfair to you, because you have given so much, but you have not received anything, everything still depends on you: because you let this happen; you gave yourself to someone who had nothing to offer you in return; you ignored the fact that what you offered is not returned to you…

Do you receive what you give? In general, yes - especially in the couple's relationship. Unfortunately, many of us make the biggest mistake: namely, we focus on what we get, what we are given, what we want from a relationship.

And we forget what we offer to the other, and we forget how to offer. When a relationship comes to a standstill, you may feel outraged: "I've given so much, I've invested so much - why did it get here?" But think about it: did you offer? In addition, what did you offer?

It is very simple to start from the belief that a couple of partners receives all our affection, appreciation, and respect for the simple reason that we feel for this affection, appreciation, and respect. But how do you offer these things? Do you show them that you feel them or do you think that he/she simply knows how you feel? One mistake: to believe that a partner knows without being shown, without being told.

Before you complain that you don't receive what you give in a relationship, think about what you give. Think about giving everything you want from your partner to you.

Think about how you offer those things to him. How do you show that you love him/her? How do you show that it's important to you? How do you show that he is appreciated?

How do you show respect? Aren't you used to assuming that these are self-evident, that you don't have to show anything? Have you ever fallen into the trap of long relationships: that of treating your partner as if he is always with you, without you trying?

Do you receive what you give in the relationship? Many times, yes. When you want the other person to be affectionate, you have to show affection; when you want the other to give you attention and appreciation, you must also be a partner involved and interested in the other; when you want the other person to be open and honest, you have to be open yourself; when you want respect, you must respect; when you want your partner to understand you, you should try to understand him/her as well.

When you feel like you're not getting what you want, you don't have to complain and give up - but be the first to try to deliver.

Instead, when you focus only on what you want to achieve from the relationship but forget about the needs of your partner, forget about what you should offer as a couple, it is normal not to feel satisfied with what you are offered.

In a relationship where the partners love each other, satisfaction should exist not only in what you receive: but in the fact that you give, that you have something to give. In making the other happy…

Sure, sometimes it seems like you gave everything away, but you just got hurt. You do not understand what you are giving, but the opposite: you are giving love, you are being given pain. What did you do wrong when you tried so hard?

You gave blind love to someone who didn't ask you, to someone who didn't get involved, to someone who didn't deserve and didn't value what you had to offer in the relationship! You kept hoping that as long as you give and keep giving, you will eventually receive the same things from an incapable partner or one who did not want to give you more.

And in the end, maybe the wheel turns, maybe after dark comes the light, a great pain will be followed by great happiness, maybe after a relationship in which you lost a lot, you will find one in which you receive a lot and in you become strong…

No one can guarantee it, but following the idea that you will receive what you give in a couple's relationship, in love, can only be a good thing.