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Do They Have Negative Energy or is it You?

Do you think we could change the world? #2

By Izzy Writes EverythingPublished 3 years ago 7 min read
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Do you know those "good vibes only" people? I think they are just judging the other vibes.

Those "bad vibes" have their place too.

I've started to see many people talking about negative energy and how they don't have time or patience for negativity. Normally I would agree with the sentiment of protecting your energy, but the ways the terms are being used is more than misleading.

Most of the people using this term have entered into the realm of toxic positivity and haven't even noticed that their energy is really the negative energy floating around.

Negative energy and how it impacts us

Recently I witnessed someone who was upset over their co-worker always talking about the pain they are in. This person was exasperated by the person she worked with always being sick.

This person said she couldn't believe that her coworker was ALWAYS sick and it was ALWAYS something. This made her conclude she couldn't take the negative energy from her coworker anymore.

As the conversation continued, I saw something alarming. Other people around also thought that the person who was sick and using their voice to express their reality was filled with negative energy.

Sadly, the people didn't seem to know how far into toxic positivity they had stepped. They were also seemingly unaware that being sick and talking about your reality as it is, is actually positive energy. Voicing her truth wasn't negative energy even though many people thought it was.

They thought it was negative because they didn't like to hear it. That means that they took their negative feelings about hearing it and labeled that as her negative energy.

Sadly, dismissing something we don't like experiencing as negative energy is becoming more and more commonplace in our society - but that doesn't mean it's right.

Is their negative energy impacting you?

I understand where some of the ideas may have come from. The human language uses words with very heavy connotations to describe energy and some people take the literal meaning instead of the poetic one. This often leads them to believe that low vibrating energies are negative and anything that makes them feel less than happy is filled with negativity, but this is far from the truth.

To understand this fully, you have to understand energy a bit more. Energy moves and we experience vibrations as a result. Everything vibrates at a different frequency. Blue and Yellow are both colors, one vibrates at a lower frequency than the other but that doesn't make it bad or negative. It simply is a word used to compare the measurement of frequencies.

The same is true for our thoughts, actions, and emotions. Each of them vibrates at a different frequency, some lower and some higher. That doesn't mean any of them are more negative or harmful than the other. It simply means one is lower than the other. We often take lower vibrational to mean negative or bad but that just isn't the case when talking about energetic vibrations.

Many people are using fear these days to help this sentiment along. They'll tell you that you have to be extremely careful and not let negative vibes around you - but that isn't the path to enlightenment - not even a little bit.

While it's true negative energies can impact you, it isn't true that they can harm you by just being around them. Negative energies in the world only impact you if you hold onto them or attach to them in some way.

One of the most common ways people do this is by attaching their projection or meaning-making story to the energy.

In the case of the woman complaining about her sick co-worker, she projected onto her coworker that her reality was too much to handle. She projected onto her coworker that she was negative because she was talking about how she felt and the woman didn't like hearing it.

This happens a lot in life and not just with co-workers you don't want to hear from. It happens with spouses, friends, kids, and inside family systems because we've all been taught to think and communicate how we feel in judgments about others.

The woman could have expressed her frustration with having to hear about someone's illness constantly but instead, she made it seem like the chronically ill coworker was in the wrong for honestly telling them how she was feeling.

Usually, this is much easier than being vulnerable enough to share that you are bothered by someone talking about their chronic illness. It's likely that if the woman had said, "I'm so tired of hearing my coworker complain about how sick she is all the time," that she wouldn't have gotten the same validation that she did by blaming the coworker and her negativity.

When she attached her emotions, which is just energy in motion, she introduced her own energy - which was actually more negative and toxic than the truth the coworker was sharing.

Just like that woman, when we take our feelings of not wanting to hear something and turn it around to make it seem like the other person shouldn't have shared or should share differently then it's our negative energy we've put into the mix that is the problem.

When we attach our view to someone and use that as a reason to call them negative or toxic, then we are the person who inserted the negative energy. Often the person telling us their truth or their opinion isn't negative - we just judge the energy as that because we don't like the way what they said makes us feel.

But that means the "negative" energy is ours and not theirs.

I may go as far as to say that the moment we judge someone as negative or their energy as negative then we have inserted our own negative energy.

Is it their negative energy or your toxic positivity?

The problem with the toxic positivity disguised as ridding ourselves of negative energy is that it doesn't allow space for the entire human experience to unfold. If we push away anything we see as negative we begin to limit our ability to cope with anything that we don't agree with and that's the worst kind of person to be.

Allowing people to be people, allowing the emotions, the truth, the opinions, and not attaching our ideas or judgments onto it all is the only way to keep the positive energy flowing. Having no negative energy around us shouldn't be the goal. Being self-aware enough to not insert our negative energy into the mix is probably a better one.

Sadly, most of us lack the personal awareness needed to be able to discern between the negative energy we put into a situation and the negative energy people are trying to put on us. That personal awareness comes after cultivating a relationship with both the light inside you and the shadow inside you as well. Since many people are trying to be better without shining the light on their shadows, we end up with a lot of people judging things as negative but not looking at how that judgment highlights their own negativity.

I invite you to take a look at this in yourself. Do you call things you don't like experiencing "negative energy?" Do you make it seem people who do things that bother you are filled with negative energy?

If so, it may be you that has some negative energy you're pushing out into the world and you may want to think a little harder next time about where the negative energy you're experiencing is actually coming from.

What would happen if we all started taking a look at ourselves instead of shifting blame to others?

Do you think we could change the world?

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Izzy Writes Everything

Long time ghost writer finally putting my name on things I write. Essayist at heart but is always writing fiction. Looking to find others writers to connect with.

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  • Stephanie J. Bradberryabout a year ago

    You present very poignant questions at the end and very on-point observations throughout. I used to suffer horribly from the energy and illnesses of others because I am an empath and energy healer. For a long time (before I knew ways to protect my field and even what was going on) people always felt "better" around me and I would feel depleted and horrendous or even would become ill. Thanks so pointing out the effects other people's lack of understanding or willingness to do some introspective work impacts others.

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