Second Chance at Love
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Dating in Our Thirties!

by Nalana Phillips 9 months ago in dating

This is my opinion and is not affiliated with anyone else's.

Dating in Our Thirties!

I am in my late 30s and I have noticed that dating has become a lot harder the older you get. I have joined and deleted a lot of dating sites, because it seems that either the guys just want to hook up or the ones that want to date don't really want to get to know me before they try to hook up with me. It has been a constant cycle of frustration for me on a personal level. I know how great of a person I am, but none of these guys seem to want to get to know a thing about me at all.

It just seems men who are the same age want a woman who is much younger than them and older men want a woman my age.

Are men just programmed to want someone much younger?

Or is a preference of theirs I just can't tell anymore.

I am trying to date again, but it seems that the type of men goes after me are men in their 50s or 60s who are in the same situation I am, or worse and I am so not interested in them!

I can't seem to figure out if I am just cursed when it comes to the opposite sex or does it stem from something deeper.

Someone told me the other day that my "man-dar" is damaged and I had to inform her that it isn't damaged. It is flat out broken. I wasn't kidding. The only type I have ever attracted were losers and I am trying to break my cycle, but it doesn't seem to want to quite me.

So how do you go about dating again when you know you will be just going through a vicious cycle all over again?

I am still trying to figure that out my self.

It doesn't help that men just seem to want to hook up at all ages whether they be in their 20s to 50s.

I guess it is just a waiting game for the right man to come along and hopefully see what kind of woman I am and that I am worth getting to know.

I have kissed a lot of frogs and am still waiting for Prince Charming. Maybe he will come along someday when I least expect it.

I will continue to hold out hope for the future.

I don't want to believe that all the good men are gone, taken, gay, or hidden under a rock or in a cave somewhere.

So if you are a woman out there that is in her 30s and has had failed relationship after failed relationship. Don't lose hope.

They say that there is someone out there for everyone. I hope so! Because it would be a hard pill to swallow to think that we are all doomed to continue to make the same mistakes in love and romance that we did in our younger years, now that we are older and know better. That is a very frightening thought. I can't imagine dating the same kind of guys I did when I was in my 20s.

Being a woman with a job and a kid, I want some who can be reliable and do what they say they are going to do when they say they are going to do it.

I think everyone at a certain point wants that as well.

Aren't we suppose to have evolved since the time of the caveman? Then why does it seem to me that so many men have regressed?

Do woman just expect too much in the dating world or are we asking too little of the opposite sex? Should we lower our standards of men? Should we make them higher and wait for prince charming to come along and not the next frog?

How does it work?
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Nalana Phillips

I am a single mother. I am looking to become a writer and am trying to eventually make a living from it. 

I hope you enjoy anything that you read of mine. 

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