Dating After 40

Dating in your 40s is full of challenges, but it doesn’t have to be.

It can be easier to date in your 40s than in your 20s if you know what you’re doing and make yourself appealing to the opposite sex.

Of course, many people feel anxious about dating in their 40s, but don’t forget that it’s normal—especially if you haven’t been with someone new since your 20s!

Read on for some tips on having a fantastic time dating in your 40s!

Set Your Standards

The best way to ensure that you’re dating with a purpose is to set your standards early on.

Rather than saying I don’t have time or the right guy hasn’t come along yet, focus on what you’re looking for in a partner.

• Do you want someone who shares your interests?
• Is it essential that he has a successful career?

If so, be open and honest about that and find ways to meet men who match those qualities.

Don’t wait around hoping things will work; output yourself out there and make things happen!

Don’t Beat Yourself Up.

As women age, it can become harder to date.

But remember that confidence is attractive—not only to men but also to yourself. If you aren’t feeling your best, don’t settle!

If you come across a guy who isn’t taking you seriously because of your age or appearance, move on in your search for love.

His loss is another man’s gain.

You have plenty of time to find love and happiness; make sure that both are waiting for you at home when you get there each night.

Be Careful With Online Daters

Online dating has changed a lot over recent years.

If you’re new to internet dating, getting swept up in endless messaging back and forth with potential dates can be easy.

But, remember, it’s still dating – not just chatting online.

You should meet your date in person and get to know them well before deciding if they’re someone you want to move forward with.

In other words, please choose your dates wisely and take your time getting to know them before diving in headfirst.

This will help ensure that you find someone truly compatible with you.

Keep Going Out

You’ve got a bit of an age gap and are on somewhat different life stages, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it work.

I don’t know if your guy is ready to settle down just yet, but he should be willing to take on a more serious relationship than he might be used to.

He should also have enough dating experience to know how to treat you right—even if things don’t work out long-term, at least he’ll have left you with some great memories (and hopefully not too many bad ones).

Keep dating him regularly and be open about your feelings for each other.

Put Yourself Out There

Once you’re clear on what kind of guy you’re looking for, make it a point to meet new people.

You might think that being in your 40s means that all of your single friends are paired up, but you’d be surprised.

Socialize with co-workers and neighbors. Join a monthly group or grab coffee with someone new every week.

There’s no need to pressure yourself—enjoy meeting new people! If you find someone who sparks interest, great!

If not, no worries—you’ve still expanded your social circle.

And don’t forget about online dating sites.

It may seem intimidating at first, but with so many different websites available, there’s sure to be one there for you.

Celebrate The Small Wins

It can be easy to get discouraged when you’re in your late 30s or early 40s, and you’re looking for love—especially because, at that age, all of your friends are either in a relationship or married.

So if you haven’t found love yet, don’t worry—there is still hope! Just take a page out of my book and start celebrating even small wins.

Remember when I went on a date with an old crush from high school?

It turned out to be nothing more than that, but it was still an experience.

Remember when I made eye contact with two different men at two bars? That was another moment of celebration!

Try New Things

It’s no secret that dating after 40 isn’t like it was when you were in your 20s, but there are still things you can do to find someone who clicks with you.

If a rock climbing class, mixology course, or travel abroad excites you, do it!

The more active and open-minded you are about trying new things and doing exciting things, the more likely it is that someone will approach you because they find your confidence attractive.

For example, if a man at a bar compliments your dress or gives you his phone number instead of just asking for yours—he likely saw how much fun you were having and wanted to be part of it.

And let’s face it, you don’t want to spend all your time talking about work and what’s on TV anyway; instead, focus on getting out there and enjoying life!

You Deserve A Good Relationship

You deserve a relationship that’s just as fulfilling as any other stage of your life. If you’ve been unlucky in love, it doesn’t mean there aren’t great guys out there—it means you haven’t found them yet.

If you’re in your 40s and still single, know that when it comes to dating, women over 40 are still hot commodities (and they know it!).

Your life experience will set you apart from younger women, and if you meet someone who truly understands what makes an older woman tick—he’ll want to know more about you!

Don’t lose hope; you’re not alone.

There are plenty of men out there looking for a fantastic woman like you!