Compatibility//Connection...

We are living in a world today where it is hard to find someone we connect with and are compatible with. People are so afraid to let someone in because of the fear of being hurt, choosing the wrong one, and looking stupid for someone. But then there are those times where it just happens and it feels so good that it happened so naturally that all of those fears you once had, are still there but their voices aren’t as loud. You sigh of relief because this feeling is new, so maybe you’ve never experienced it but it’s something you know you needed. With this thing comes the desire to protect it at all cost. No one and nothing are to touch this thing without major consequences and repercussions. Usually this occurs with babies. You as their protector have the urge to protect them from any and everything, no one was safe from your wrath if need be.

This connection is different from any parent/ child love, or anything family related connection. This connection is one you experience with a stranger. We all start as strangers until there’s an introduction of some sort and then there’s a new person we’ve met, associate, co-worker, friend of a friend, friend, then something so much more. There are people who only feel like your soul mate is the one you’re attracted to sexually, but in fact, your soul mate can be someone you’re not sexually attracted to. This sex or someone their sexually attracted to.

This connection can only occur when people are compatible. Now this doesn’t necessarily mean you have to play 21 questions and if y’all like most of the same things then quick, somebody call the pastor, it’s time for the wedding. No! but through communicating and being around each other, you get a vibe and start to realize that this person is so similar to you and you to them, but completely different its insane. While being around them, you feel complete. It’s like life makes sense now, yes there’s been other people you’ve been close to, but this person possesses what you didn’t know you needed. You develop a love for that person naturally. It’s to the point where you don’t even understand how you could’ve possibly been living life without this person and how you can’t be without them. Honestly, you’ll start to think “damn I could’ve just waited for this person and skipped other people” but in actuality you had to deal with the nonsense to make this connection so worth it. You appreciate it a whole lot. The compatibility you have with this person is only one that you two share and since it’s so special you can’t take that person for granted… at all.

A lot of the time, after this connection is established, to deepen it someone and or both fall in love and that isn’t forced either. It will really have you questioning “what am I doing with my life?” “what does this mean?” “is this really real?” “is this what it really feels like?” “what’s happening?” You try to answer those questions and sometimes the only answer you can come up with is, it is what it is. Now you know how in the movies the guy realizes the girl he over-looked slightly was the one for him, or the friend was actually more than just a friend? Yeah that’s what this connection turned love is like. Or it’s like someone who has had a very healthy appetite sexually or otherwise and meets that person who give them more than enough in the first round that they legit don’t need anymore. Like thanksgiving, we get excited mostly for the abundance of food that we usually don’t eat on a regular. Once the food on your plate is now being digested in your stomach, you’re full and satisfied, you sigh like yes!! Finally! That’s what this feels like.

With this feeling everything about you seems to just shift. The music has so much feeling, you feel the words the artist is singing, the rhythm of it all, the meaning behind it. The sun shines a little brighter, that beauty mark that was kissed by your person no longer feels like something ugly but one of the things about you that’s so original, you feel everything and anything that’s positive, you ignore and get away from all things negative. The days away from your person feel so long but you know you’ll see them soon; so, they speed up just a little bit. You walk differently, you talk differently everything just feels so different and it’s not something you can explain because it’s complicated. All of this is natural, it’s not forced, no one told you this is how you have to act now and get this; you and your person may not be exclusively with one another. No one and I do mean No one will understand unless there are actual barriers preventing this, but as long as the two of you are happy, go for it!

This is something that most people spend their entire life trying to find. Honestly, it’s not something you can seek out and find, but something that occurs when you’re where you’re supposed to be. This is that pure stuff, stronger than any street drug, prescription, or other connection you may have. People will warn against it, but you’ll be a fool to listen to them. They probably just settled and never felt what you feel but since they’re successful and you’re living a fairytale, they think they’re right. The fact of the matter is, what works for them, does just that. But this is what’s working for you. At some point you sit and realize those doubtful voices you once had, no longer exist and the only thing that does exist is this person, you and the genuine connection you have embedded in you now…