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Communication in Relationships

What You Need to Know

By Lena BaileyPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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If you talk to anyone who's been married or with their significant other for awhile, they will probably tell you that the most important thing in a relationship is communication.

The biggest thing is that you have to talk and open up to your partner. There is nothing more annoying then being with someone who won't talk to you. I also know men sometimes don't like to open up and talk about feelings, but it's important. There's a misconception that men shouldn't cry or talk about feelings, but that's so wrong. Men, if you cry in front of the lady in your life and open up to her, she will appreciate you doing so.

The reason communication is so important is because it's how you build trust and a connection with your partner. It's also how we get to know your partner. It allows you to have a different type of intimacy. It will also grow how you feel about your partner.

The major issue I see with some people is they don't have the tough conversations. No one wants to have the tough conversations, but we have to put our big girl or big boy pants on and have those conversations. You don't want to date someone? Tell them! You lost that loving feeling? Tell them! If you don't have those tough conversations, stuff won't change.

People complain about not getting what they want out of a relationship, but they never speak up during the relationship. If you don't speak up for what you want or what you need in a relationship, then you won't get it. Don't break up with someone just because you don't get what you're not asking for. There's also times when your partner will do something you don't like and you need to speak up. There's nothing wrong with you saying, "When you do this or makes me feel this way." Habits and actions that hurt you need to be addressed.

Of course there's stuff that doesn't need to be talked about unless you want to talk about it. Rich uncles you maybe met once in your life is one of them. Family history of drug use or addiction or mental health is another until you decide you want to have kids with this person. We all know those things we shouldn't talk about. Now there are two lists in this category—the stuff you shouldn't talk about up front and things you shouldn't talk about ever.

In a wonderful world where we are so connected, we still don't know how to talk to really connect. It's almost like we stay at a superficial level with everyone so we don't get hurt or to attached. We also don't want to offend others. Sometimes we get hurt or offend others, but it's life.

We have to find that line of what can we say without being too offensive and walking on egg shells. You definitely don't want to do either, but you also want to feel like you speak up. You also have to make your partner feel like they can open up to you. Don't make them feel bad for how they feel.

I will be posting more about the basics about relationships. We all need a reminder, and some of us need to learn the basics. Sometimes we either never learned the basics or we forgot them.

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Lena Bailey

Georgia born writer. Specializing in dating and true crime

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