Because your life is an accident!

People have a tendency to avoid failure. It is not uncommon for those who desire to be successful, but there are only a few who are truly successful. Some people have many failures in their lives, and some people first succeed and then fail. It is even rarer to be able to grasp the overall situation and make success the keynote of one's life. Success at this time does not mean success at that time, success here does not mean success at that place, and sometimes even this success will become the reason for the next failure. Your own goals are too lofty, the external environment is too sinister, and personnel relations are too complicated, all of which are the key factors that determine success or failure.

However, a fact that cannot be ignored is that many successful people, with more ambitious life goals, facing more sinister environments, and dealing with more complicated personnel relationships, still persevered and overcome difficulties, and went to the glory of success. On the contrary, those who fail face many great opportunities that no one else could dream of, but fail to achieve even a small goal. The same situation, spread on different people, the results vary widely.

It can be seen that the most important factor in determining success is not the outside world, but yourself. And my own problem is nothing more than a mentality problem of how to face life, face opportunities, face success or failure. Blaming failures on accident, blaming the outside world, and complaining about the injustice of creation is a shortcut to achieve psychological balance. Creation certainly has its injustices because it is not designed according to our desires and needs. If you change the angle, maybe you can see more real situation.

If you fail, you need to think more about what faults and inevitable factors in your body caused your failure. Once the cause is found, it is not difficult to prescribe the right medicine. If you don't look for the reason for your failure from yourself, but blindly blame others, it is tantamount to asking for fish. There are two disadvantages of blaming others. One is that it is easy to shirk one’s own responsibilities and develop a bad habit of refusing to introspect; the other is that it is easy to force oneself into a vicious circle of fate, too many psychological hints of “I will fail” will inevitably lead to you.

Think about it, no matter how bad the opportunity is, the reason for your failure can be found in you. If there is an unforeseen situation, one of your failures is entirely caused by accidental factors, it proves that you have not failed at all, you might as well put your hands down and smile slightly, anyway, you have done your best, even if you are defeated, you are still proud. Instead of indulging in resentment, it is better to start now, take immediate action, change yourself, and meet the next fight. The failure of chewing and rumination cannot replace success, but it can avoid various failures that may occur in the future, and it is the starting point of success. With a good attitude in the face of failure, you have succeeded more than half. It's just that you must keep a clear head after success, don't take success too seriously, don't take yourself too high, although your success has the inevitability of personal struggle, but it also contains many accidents.

Because you are successful, although the paths are different, there are certain rules. The reason why people are more mad than others is because the more they compare themselves, the more gray they are. Instead of thinking that you have nothing, think about what you have and try to put it to good use. This does not mean that people can ignore their shortcomings, but instead of pursuing blind "qin, chess, calligraphy and painting", it is better to "cut one finger" and let it go.

Anything that can be bypassed is not an obstacle.

Because your life is an accident!