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Bad Energy

Not all friends need to be cast out.

By Badiru AffiliatesPublished 4 years ago 3 min read
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Every once in a while teenagers get into a vicious cycle during which we attempt to erase all forms of “bad energy” from our lives and unfortunately lose precious relationships we only end up regretting in the near future, then make friends which would impact us negatively and bring us back to the beginning of the cycle.

We get lost in the idea that our friends are always meant to support whatever we do no matter what it is but that’s not the reality of friendships. We sign up for meaningful, profitable relationships and sometimes we just might be in the wrong but we take this as a sign that people we’ve made years worth of memories with are out to get us. I’m not here to say you’re in the wrong for ending that friendship, some people just don’t deserve you. I’m asking you to question your reason for ending it. Did they try to advise you against a move they felt would turn out to be a disaster? Did he tell you he didn’t like a particular behaviour you had suddenly developed? Did she begin to slightly pull away and you felt the best thing to do was to sever that tie? These are all tests and they happen to people in relationships of all forms.

There are certain things we can do if we feel our friendships aren’t going the way we feel they should.

Communicate: Do you feel your friend is being unnecessarily unsupportive? Talk to him. Figure out what the actual problem is, he might be getting minor feelings of jealousy because of certain things going on in his life right now and that’s where your role comes in to make sure he knows that there’s gonna be light at the end of his tunnel. Just because things are looking bright for you and bleak for him doesn’t mean it will always be that way. Help her in however way she may need. Take those friendship blows and make up, you will all be better for it in the end.

Effort: Talking about your feelings won’t be enough to get through whatever storm you and your friend are going through right now. Once the problem has been identified, make steps to get your relationship back on the right track.

Note: Do not go through this process alone, do it with your friend.

Perspective: Try seeing things from her perspective, we’re all different people and life experiences have given us different approaches and opinions about issues so before condemning a friend’s let us try understanding why they may see things a certain way.

Before ending a friendship we need to ask ourselves certain questions and confirm we’re not the reason the friendship is failing.

Finally, we’re in a time and age where everything surrounding us is just so fake. We should endeavour to savour human connections and memories for as long as we can and not be eager to cut them off as soon as we see ban vines. Friends sometimes are closer than the family you grow up with. Talk to him, make up with her, keep the fire of friendship burning for as long as you can because in the end memories are what make life truly worth living.

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