Anatomy of a Heartbreak

by Natalie Santana about a year ago in love

I wish I were a little girl again, because skinned knees are easier to mend than broken hearts.

Anatomy of a Heartbreak

Being in love is arguably the greatest thing that can happen to someone; there is nothing better than finding someone who completes you. When you meet this person, you won't remember how you lived without him or her. Being in love transforms you into someone new.

Each day of your new life suddenly becomes the best day when you're with this person. When you hear his or her name, you feel butterflies you can't control, and you’re more than welcoming to them.

When you see this person, you are able to smile bigger than you thought humanly possible. Any obstacle seems small simply now that they’re by your side.

You place your trust in this person more than any person in your life. That's why you’re able to offer up something so valuable; your heart. You trust this person with every secret you hold. Often when tears are welled up in your eyes, you share dark secrets from your past that still haunt you, and your partner accepts you... regardless.

Being in love is unfathomably the happiest state in which we can find ourselves to live. You are blessed in having someone who is constantly looking out for you, everywhere you are, no matter where you are. Every love song you hear suddenly reminds you of this feeling and your person. And to think you used to make fun of your friends who were so touched by love.

There is a reason for all of the songs and the movies, and there is a reason why people want to have it so badly. Believe it or not, it is all it's cracked up to be. To me, anyone who wants to argue that fact, has probably never been in true love.

But, to fully expose and grasp all that love entails requires you to see the other end of the spectrum.

You will never appreciate love as much as those who have fully experienced it, and you will never believe in its power until your world turns completely upside down with two words: "It's over."

When your heart gets broken, no amount of alcohol or talking about it, or anything else can make you feel better.

To love is to become vulnerable to the unpleasant things it can bring: crying yourself to sleep every night, listening to the most depressing music ever, overanalyzing, and simply talking about it to any and all who will listen.

Being heartbroken feels like everything in your life is frozen, like you are stuck in a black hole, falling.

Along with not recognizing your own reflections, as it takes everything in you to get through a day and look somewhat presentable, you no longer recognize your ex. (Sometimes).

Despite everything this person did to you, you would do anything for him or her, if need be. That's the thing about love; when you find yourself in this desperate dark hole, and you still have the ability to love, that's how you know love is so much stronger than heartbreak.

I hate seeing people who get dumped because I know how hard it is, and I know there is nothing I can say or do to make the pain go away. But, what I can say is that one day, you will see clearly. One day, that pain you feel every will stop. One day, things will be better. All I can hope for myself is that one day comes sooner than later.

To fully comprehend love and fully appreciate love, you must first and foremost, know heartbreak. When people get hurt, they quickly decide they never want to feel that low again; they close themselves off to love. It’s the simplest way to go at it.

People turn to work, to school, burying themselves into a deeper depression, and everything else to avoid ever opening up to someone so fully. It's okay to stay protected. That is, it’s okay to an extent. No one can, or should go through their life alone.

It's true that someone will never know you the way your first real love did because first loves (specifically, first heartbreaks) change people. Good or bad, and if you’re willing to admit it or not, you’re changed.

You come to learn about how naïve you were with some loves. But, if you're open to it, if you’re willing to grow more, you will love again. When you get hurt, you will learn to appreciate the future more.

To know love, we must know heartbreak. They go hand in hand as simply as the sun rises in the sky every morning. As much as I wish people never had to feel heartbreak, it is vital to successful relationships. You took the risk once, well aware that this could be the dreaded outcome. Looking back, it is still easily the best thing that ever happened to you, despite the pain you were put through.

Love and heartbreak are on two ends of the same spectrum; to know one, you must know the other. Know that if you are feeling sad and in the dark, things can only get better and brighter.

Natalie Santana
Natalie Santana
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Natalie Santana

Mom of a one year old little princess. Crazy Boston sports fan. Will eat any food placed in front of me. Knower of useless facts. If there's a dog, I'm probably petting it. 

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