Abuse on men.

I’ve been meaning to write about this for a long time, but the abuse of the female gender seem to always take the front sit. I think now is the right time, so I’m doing it.

A lot of people in today’s society do not believe that men can be abused in every way possible. This is because they pose to be the bigger and stronger gender. But I’d like to say this as loudly as i can, MEN TOO CAN BE ABUSED.

A lot of men are in abusive relationships for one reason or another; love, compassion, circumstances, and so on. And sometimes, they don’t think they can leave their abusers, some of them don’t even want to. Let me give you an instance.

I have this neighbor who was living together with this girl, they had two beautiful children. There was literally no day they didn’t fight, and when one enquired, we found out it was the woman always doing the shouting, the hitting, the tearing and the scattering and the man was merely blocking these weapons from giving him permanent injuries. Each time we asked him why he was still with her, he said he loved her and was hoping she was going to change, plus they had children. FAM! That never happened, and he almost lost his life in the process if not for caring and nosy neighbors. Now, they’re both separated and each living a good life.

Another instance…

I have this friend who physically abuses her man, manipulates and lies to him at every given opportunity just because she knows that he loves her deeply and would never summon the courage to leave her. At every slightest argument, he gets a slap on the face. Worse part is, she plays the victim when they’re trying to resolve their issues. She cries, and promises to see a counselor. FAM! I tell you again..all that one na scam!. Sometimes, i wonder if this one is not “ogbanje” manifesting.

I don’t see any reason why i should raise my hand to hit my man, or any man or woman at that, i don’t even hit my younger brothers, even when they want to give me high blood pressure. Some men suffer all of this in silence because they feel that speaking up will make them seem weak. They have comfortably conformed to the standards and expectations of society so they tie their tongues and continue to suffer.

Let me tell you about a friend who was sexually abusing her man.

She had this guy that was deeply in love with her, he could go to the heavens for her. But he never got any love in return. He was always willing to try out any sexual position her brain came up with, even if it was demeaning to him as a person. And after the sex she will just discard him like a used tissue. His mere presence irritated her, and she never hesitated to let him know this. She disrespected him in and out of the house, she cussed him out in public, she made bad jokes about him, and all this time he took it all and prayed for a change. Of course it never happened and bobo finally packed his load and left after a bunch of us forced him to. He’s living a good life now, and is even a celebrity.

Men suffer abuse in relationships and most of them will never speak up.

Anyways, i don’t know what i hope to gain by writing this, but i hope someone somewhere sees this and seeks for help.

Never be ashamed to speak up or walk away from a person who is toxic to you. Have a desire to be mentally happy and free. Crave for peace and stability in your relationship. Be with someone that makes you happy and purpose driven in life.

Thank you for reading💚