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6 Sneaky Habits That Are Sabotaging Your Relationship

Prioritizing your relationship doesn't make it healthy.

By Jessey AnthonyPublished 2 years ago 3 min read

Why do so many people seek love but fail to build lasting and healthy relationships?

To love means to care for someone and want the best for them. It is a response to feelings of trust in something or someone. And trust is built through actions and open communication.

Having open communication of our feelings keeps us from going down the slippery rabbit trails of our minds.

As feelings grow, their sustenance changes. And when one person in a relationship begins to drift, you start to question the relationship altogether.

There are a number of reasons why a relationship fails. Jealousy, attachment, detachment, selfishness, lack of time, mistrust, lack of communication, dishonesty, and acceptance, to mention but a few.

However, there are some other ways we accidentally hurt the people we love and the relationship without realizing it. And the more of these things you do, the more annoying they may find you.

Asking for advice and ignoring it

Many of us are guilty of this. We have a habit of asking the opinion of others on solutions to our problems. But we brush it off as if we never asked for it. Women are more likely to ask their partners how they look in a new dress or hairstyle when getting ready for a date. Regardless of what he says, she will ultimately do what feels right to her.

Pretending you are not offended

We are all guilty of this. Trust me, it's more than obvious when something bothers us. Silence is worse than 'okay', because the word 'good' in any case means 'not good. Silence only allows us to compartmentalize and keep everything inside, which, of course, will later turn into a time bomb.

Taking too long to decide on something

Some men really hate when a woman refuses to give an opinion when asked. Even if it's something as simple as choosing a dessert or a vacation destination. In an age where equality is being touted as a necessity, a man will want you to know that your desire is as important as his.

Being nice to get away with bad behavior

There's nothing nice about trying to warm up your partner or spoiling them with affection before sweeping the bad behaviors under the rug. You might get away with it once or twice, but eventually, it gets really bad. The nice thing to do is to be mature and take responsibility for your actions when you've hurt someone's feelings or done something wrong.

Always asking to go out with their friends

It's adorable when you make your partner the center of your world, but it's also annoying and puts a lot of pressure on your partner. Asking to hang out with his friends all the time pisses men off. Instead, actively pursue your interests while he does his own thing. It's healthy to have a life outside of your relationships with men.

Acting clingy and inseparable

Trying to hug or kiss him when he's working on an important project or when he's talking to a client can be irritating. Your attachment style essentially determines how you behave in a relationship and thus can also affect how healthy or unhealthy your relationships are.

Parting words

Relationships can be complex and frustrating to maintain a balance where everyone's interest is considered.

Being vulnerable, being open, and asking for mutual support when needed are signs of healthy interdependence.

When you stop seeking mutual support, you stop sharing important aspects of your life.

To avoid these harmless pitfalls, make sure you continue to cultivate your identity, interests, and meaningful connections outside of your romantic relationship.


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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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