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6 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic

Toxicity can mirror peace when the lines are blurred. You can love someone till you are blue in the face but they may never feel the same way about you. Sometimes we believe we are being loved when in all reality we are being taken advantage of. Walking away is heartbreaking but one day it will be euphoric. Choosing peace over passion is hard, but in the end it is so worth it.

By The Darkest SunrisePublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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6 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic
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#1: Sexual Manipulation

Of course many couples are on the same page when it comes to intimacy. Sex is beautiful when it is with someone that makes you feel like butterflies are hitting the lining of your stomach at rapid speeds. Love will have you feeling all types of enchanted emotions. However, when someone truly loves you they will NEVER force you to do something that you don't want to do. I'm not only talking about physically forcing because we all know that is one of the most vile things a person can do. Someone who loves you won't manipulate you or make you feel bad about not wanting to be intimate. If they truly loved you, you wouldn't have to do a single thing that made you uncomfortable and no would be respected the first time.

#2: Gaslighting

If you find yourself in a disagreement with your partner and they start saying things they said were never said or things they did were never did, they are gaslighting you. This a tactic used by emotionally abusive partners in an attempt to make you seem crazy. They also want you to feel crazy as well. The crazier you appear to them and in turn the outside word, the better they feel about themselves. These are the types of people that lie to themselves so often that they start believing the lies that they tell. Run far and run fast from these types of relationships. These types of relationships never serve a single soul with even an ounce of peace.

#3: Control In Any Form

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However, if you find yourself in a relationship where the opinion of your party is the only opinion that matters, you are in a relationship that is far from healthy. Significant others who control finances, food, clothing, etc. are not partners you should stay with. You should be able to express yourself in the ways that you deem suitable for who you are. Nobody should be made to feel like they have no control over their lives. Often times we spend our childhood years under the control of our parents. We shouldn't go into our adult life feeling tied down by those same restrictions, only even more intensified.

#4: Excessive Criticism

Not a single soul in this world feels better being constantly put down. As much as we love hard and want to look past our person's flaws maybe they just aren't our person. Especially if they make you feel like total garbage everyday. Nobody deserves to feel like nothing they do is ever right. Love is a beautiful thing. I promise you that nobody that truly loves you is going to make you feel like they just emotionally mopped the floor with you. Your dreams and your wishes are valid. The way you do things in your everyday life is a part of who you are. Menial berating comments should never make you feel the need to change who you are.

#5: Isolation

Everyone in a relationship loves to spend time with their partner. I've been in relationships where I would spend literally every single day with my boyfriend and it never got old. However, when your significant other leaves no time for your friends or family that can become a problem. I'm not talking about the honeymoon phase either. Many couples go through a period of time in a relationship where all they would like to do is spend time with their lover. I'm talking about the people that will throw fits, catch attitudes, and be outright mean when you want to spend time with anyone other than them. It is a red flag you should never overlook. Because one day when you're tired of the treatment you will have absolutely no one by your side when it is time to leave which is exactly what your partner wants.

#6 Absence of Trust

It is very true when they say if you don't have trust you have absolutely nothing. Being stuck in a relationship where your partner has overrun the relationship with accusatory behavior is never the healthiest thing. Constantly being accused of something can often times show what your partner has actually done or thinks about doing. Often times the accuser has already done something foul behind your back so it makes them feel better accusing you of the awful things they have done. Look out for accusations that come completely out of left field. They are often deflection.

Follow your heart at the end of the day. Take these signs into consideration. As much as you'd love to believe the person you cherish would never hurt you, they may have just been good at pulling the wool over your eyes this entire time. Protect your peace. Sometimes the hardest thing is letting go but the greatest thing will always be finding the love that you truly deserve.

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