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5 Things That Happen when You're Dating Your Best Friend

Do you know a single more bonding factor than friendship? While love is an impulse, family or professional communication has the forced nature; friendship is grounded on extreme spiritual closeness.

By Brooke CollitsPublished 5 years ago 4 min read
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If you have a person you call the “best friend,” you should be happy and may not often think anything odd about dating him or her. 

It is the highest level of communication involving the emotional or even intuitive interaction. Words are often needless to reach an understanding. If you have a person you call the “best friend,” you should be happy and may not often think anything odd about dating him or her.

Before you carry out this idea, you should know five things that usually happen when you are dating your best friend:

You know all the strengths and weakness of each other.

Pluses: It could be compared to virtuoso playing the musical instrument. You know exactly what string or key to touch for getting the desired sounding. You will have incredible opportunities for tuning each other on the right order.

Moreover, you will be able to create a comfortable space, avoid the crises, motivate and protect the partner from pain and abuse.

Minuses: Often challenging the person’s weaknesses is the only way to self-upgrading. By minimizing this element, you can obstruct each other’s development. Moreover, knowing the vulnerable points is the most potent weapon that one can use against the other. If you practice these approaches during conflicts you will cause such a pain no one else can.

When you are happy, your happiness becomes stronger twice.

Your feelings are twice as strong.

Pluses: You feel what your partner feels and this creates a supportive atmosphere. When you are happy, your happiness becomes twice as strong. When you are motivated, you are more inspired than others are. When you are energetic and active you can move the mountains together. You will be able to experience an incredible feelings and fullness of life.

Minuses: The point is that when you are upset, your feelings are just as strong. There are always more chances to help the other person cope with a sadness when your emotions are more optimistic. Being on the same emotional wave, you lose the opportunity to balance each other.

Your partner will know everything before you tell.

Pluses: Without any saying, a deep level of mutual understanding is the most valuable aspect of the romantic relations between the best friends. Ordinary couples often struggle to fill the gap in understanding related to endless explanations. Agree, it takes all emotional forces. Especially when you explain seemingly unquestionable things but your beloved fails to understand. It is a ground for constant disappointment and exhaustion. In relations with the best friend you would not have such problems and you will feel and talk like a single person, continuing the thoughts of each other.

GS Diamonds’ managers claim that it is easy to identify which of couples buying the engagement rings were previously the best friends. It is evident because of their calmness, consistency in actions, easiness in making a common choices and deep respect while treating each other.

Minuses: Multiple situations in a couple’s life require privacy or need hiding of some information. You would not be able to keep the secrets of others, to prepare a surprise or hide the glooming facts. You will be an open book to each other.

You can move towards your goals regardless of the life situation because you are not alone in your considerations and aspirations.

You always have a single stand for both.

Pluses: Social confirmation is that ground allowing us to move across the adverse circumstances. You have the desired approval each minute and nothing can knock out the ground from under your feet. You can move towards your goals regardless of the life situation because you are not alone in your considerations and aspirations.

Minuses: When your stand is wrong, you will need more time to become aware of this fact. Your partner will not tell you this since he or she shares your way of thinking. It promotes subjectivism while one urgently needs an unbiased response to navigate across the life successfully.

You will be a self-sufficient couple.

Pluses: No one environment could become a hostile one for you. You feel comfortable with each other. For sure, you have your secret language, interesting topics to talk about, common jokes and shared focus of attention notice. Speaking in other words, one can say you have a single heart, soul, and brain but two bodies.

Minuses: Such unity is the ground for couple’s social isolation. You are much more closed to active interaction than the ordinary couples are. Other people can feel themselves strangers near to you.

You do not need the interest of anyone else besides your partner, but your surrounding requires your attention while you are not ready to change your focus.

Although there are many stands emphasizing the advantages of dating the best friend, we accented both sides. It was done not to dissuade you from acting this way but for increasing your awareness of possible opportunities and risks.

You feel comfortable with each other.

You should understand that pretending to a big pie implies more challenges, including the risk of losing your best friend.

Romantic and friendly relations have different natures—first involves the obligation aspects when the latter implies freedom. Failure in building love could result in breaking the friendship too. It does not mean you have to refuse from trying, just be aware that for getting twice more you have to pay double price. Why not risk?

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Brooke Collits

I would describe myself as someone who is honest, caring, intelligent, hardworking, and ambitious. I am an easy going person & don’t get easily disturbed by down’s in my life. Writer for MadeStones blog

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