5 Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship

Sometimes, we are unaware of the damage we can cause to the person we love. Other times, we also don't realize when that harm is being done to us.

However, it is crucial to know whether or not you are living in an unhealthy relationship, because your happiness largely depends on it. We help you to detect certain signs!

Detecting this type of relationship is not easy. Sometimes, we are so immersed in the rhythm of everyday life that it is very difficult to analyze what kind of partner we want to be and which one we have next to us.

For this reason, here are 5 signs that can tell you if you are living in an unhealthy relationship.

High intensity and emotional instability

When you start dating another person, everything is usually lived with a lot of intensity. Emotions are at the surface, all experiences are lived as if they were the last or the first of our life, feelings are greater than ever.

For everything there is a rush, desire and motivation.

In a healthy relationship, the honeymoon stage tends to lose intensity. The pieces of the puzzle fall into place and the clouds we were in are no longer made of absorbent cotton, but of cement. And so, little by little, the foundations of the couple's relationship are being laid.

However, in an unhealthy relationship, far from ending, this intensity increases. It becomes more and more intense, to the point of suffocating and overwhelming the other.

If you find yourself overwhelmed in your relationship, you may be in this type of courtship.

Isolation in an unhealthy relationship

Usually, relationships start with a strong desire to spend time together. As soon as you have an opening, you want to make plans with your new love, without stopping to think about the amount of time you're going to devote to her.

The danger arises when that partner only wants you to be with her; so she starts to alienate you from the people you love the most and who are in your closest circle.

Little by little, it creates a false circle of security around you that gradually distances you from your circle of support and from reality itself.

Everything we are talking about here usually happens gradually, so that you will notice these changes less; otherwise, you would most likely rebel against them. Therein lies the difficulty in detecting it.

The key is to detect if that new partner is calling into question everyone in your previous life.

However, love is the opposite. It includes independence, trust and freedom of choice.

It's knowing that your partner is part of your life, but so are your co-workers, your hobbies, your family members. And you don't have to give up anything for her.

Either together or not at all

Despite the desire to be with your partner, the reality is that the hours during the week that you can normally spend together are few. Work, responsibilities, leisure time... Sometimes, more time is spent at a distance than sharing space.

If the time you spend apart you have anxiety, you are in a bad mood, you can't focus on your task, you begin to distrust each other or you get angry about anything. Caution! This may indicate that you are having an unhealthy relationship. Therefore, you need to work on that dependency.

It is just as important to be well when you are together as when you are apart. And this involves learning to miss each other in a healthy way.

That is to say, to know that you would love to be together at that moment, but that it is not possible because there are obligations.

Thus, the desire and illusion of seeing each other, plus the tolerance to frustration and the acceptance or resignation of each one.

Undoubtedly, all a learning experience.

Jealousy

"If he is jealous, it means he loves me". Wrong. Jealousy is part of the range of normal emotions, the problem with them begins when they gain intensity and exceed the person's capacity for self-control.

Thus, recurrent and maladaptive behaviors that make the other person feel bad are never evidence of a healthy relationship. Quite the contrary.

Trust is the key to being able to deal with this obstacle. In fact, trust must be such that neither of you needs to know where the other is or what he or she is doing at all times.

Jealousy not only undermines the relationship, but also does so in a particular way with each of the partners. It brings with it thoughts of possession, accusations, rejection, threats, anger and despair.

Contempt, the sharp dagger in an unhealthy relationship

Teasing, insults, offenses... Contempt towards a person can be shown in many ways, but they all have one thing in common: they are a lack of respect indicative of an unhealthy relationship.

Your partner should support you, hold you up, not tear you down and minimize your feelings.

In conclusion, the more of the above signs you feel your relationship has, the more insecure and unhealthy it may be.

It may be a good time to reflect and, if you have any concerns, do not hesitate to consult a specialist, as it can be of great help.

In addition, understanding what is healthy love and unhealthy love can help you understand parallel phenomena that may occur in other types of relationships.