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3 Non-Sexual Qualities That Will Boost Your Attractiveness

And how you can develop them.

By Mind & RelationshipsPublished 3 years ago 7 min read
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Take a look.

It's a warm afternoon, and you're sitting in your favourite coffee shop, sipping your double espresso and going about your business. A couple comes in a few minutes later, and you catch something peculiar just by looking at them.

They seem to be mismatched, as if they don't belong together. “If I were a matchmaker, I'd probably assign each of them a different partner,” you say.

Isn't this something you've seen before? I've done the same.

It wasn't rare to see couples that seemed to be mismatched during my tenure as a cabin crew member. You know, the lady will be stunning, immaculately dressed, and surrounded by a sophisticated aura. He, on the other hand... well, let's just say he didn't resemble her in the least.

Do you have any idea why we find this strange?

Since social media tells us that having a specified six-pack, zero body fat, or big muscly arms is important to attract a woman.

What is the truth? There isn't a shred of truth in all of it.

Take a look at divorce stories and ongoing relationship dramas involving couples who the rest of the world claims are ideal for each other.

As a woman, I can tell you that, while we enjoy some eye candy, the qualities you possess are what we can't get enough of — and what makes us cling to you like a tick.

What's the good news? If you cultivate the qualities mentioned below, you can easily turn yourself into a man who all women would be insanely attracted to:

1. Confidence

A man boarded the plane where I served as a cabin crew member about four years ago. I greeted him as he boarded, escorted him to his seat, and then went through the features of the first-class suite.

I also offered him a glass of champagne, and as we proceeded to exchange pleasantries, I found something intriguing about his demeanour: his poise and style exuded a certain amount of self-assurance.

His demeanour exuded a quiet confidence that made me feel warm inside. Despite the fact that I was in a work setting and was expected to be professional, I couldn't resist the magnetic pull.

What's the reason?

He exuded self-assurance. Furthermore, it wasn't just his faith that drew me to him on that unforgettable flight. It drew me into his world. The appeal hasn't waned even after four years.

Want to use the magnetic pull of a magnet to attract the most amazing woman? Begin by improving your self-assurance. This is where it all begins. What good are toned abs and a beautiful body if you're afraid to approach a woman?

Work on building your emotional and spiritual reserves to help you gain trust. You won't be needy or clingy in a relationship if you do it this way.

What's more, guess what? Nothing repulses a woman more than the stench of neediness. It causes her to leave. Quickly. Being self-assured implies that you can look after yourself and your needs.

As a result, a woman feels secure enough to let her guard down because you not only relieve her of the need to be validated, but you also let her know you aren't in the relationship for her benefit.

Communication becomes simple when you are positive. An essential component of any successful partnership, and one that women adore. Want to say what's on your mind and share the feelings that have been hidden deep inside your soul?

Your only way out is to provide self-assurance.

Believe it or not, a woman would love you more if you correct her, whether she wears an unflattering outfit, or when she prepares a bad meal. What is the reason for this? It demonstrates to her that you value her too highly to smooth her over with a lie.

You're signalling that your relationship with you is founded on transparency by promoting honesty. A woman can tell when you don't sugarcoat your words: you're not desperate to be liked. This is priceless.

2. Reliability

My friend was married to a brilliant, kind, and well-spoken university lecturer. He was held in high regard by many. You'd think he'd be just as amazing at home as he was at work, right? That is not the case.

He was a totally different guy. He made commitments he couldn't keep, didn't take on any marital obligations, and didn't show up for family gatherings.

My friend's coworker offered to repair her car one day. He arranged for someone to mow her lawn soon after that. He was soon resolving her day-to-day issues and doing her errands.

My friend was overjoyed to have finally found a man she could trust, and she began to spend more time with him. Is it necessary for me to describe how the cookie crumbled?

I don't believe so.

Here's what I'll tell you: You don't have to look far because untrustworthy men are right here among us, leaving their imprints on this planet. And they're perplexed as to why women aren't drawn to them. Is that true?

Confucius was a wise man who knew what he was talking about when he said:

“A man who lacks reliability is utterly useless”

- Confucius.

You don't have to be Superman — that's not even possible. A woman is drawn to a man who appears unexpectedly. There's no way around it. Do you see a precarious situation? Make a suggestion, an alternative, or a thought. Something is possible.

It might or might not work, but that's beside the point. I guarantee you'll get points just for attempting to solve the problem, whether or not you succeed. Make a commitment. Maintain your word. Don't take up too much space.

3. Grit

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” — Michael Jordan.

I recently saw a film based on the life of Niki Lauda. They detailed the terrible car racing accident that seriously burned him and permanently disfigured him.

Niki inspired me not so much with his competitive spirit as with his tenacity and grit in getting back into the game. He could have easily given up and resigned himself to fate, reminiscing about the "good old days."

Niki is not one of them. He returned to his life's game.

Look, I understand. Few people are capable of surviving such a situation. It would be too much for even the most strong of us.

This is the harsh reality, but even with "minor" misfortunes — much less serious than Lauda's — many men fall. Rather than confronting their issues, they run away.

Worse, in times of crisis, some men resort to alcoholism, pornography, television, and drugs rather than conquering, studying, and seeking solutions to problems.

So there you have it.

What choices do you have?

Develop a thicker skin. Have grit. Life is complicated, and most people want someone by their side to help them get through it.

You see, there's something incredibly appealing about a man who can bounce back from a disaster.

Don't get me wrong: it's perfectly acceptable to lick your wounds. However, if you do this for too long, you will get trapped. Refuse to sit down, whether it's due to a corporate collapse, recession, the loss of a loved one, or a global pandemic like the one we're currently witnessing. Get up and drive around.

When she sees you looking for ways to better your life rather than allowing yourself to be a victim of society, she will respect you greatly.

Set yourself apart from the millions of other men in the world by focusing on your life's vision. Not only would a woman admire you, but she will fight to be a part of your vision.

Maybe you don't have the same sexual traits as the models in magazines. Perhaps you have a few insecurities of your own. Perhaps you've faced some stumbling blocks in your life.

What's more, guess what? None of this is as significant as you believe.

Start cultivating the qualities mentioned above if you want to be a guy that women would not only chase after but also cling to. One by one, please. You are not needed to move the heavens and the earth.

Remember that you already have everything you need and true and enduring beauty is determined by the attributes you possess on the inside, not by what the world is trying to offer you.

That's a good place to start because you're intelligent, capable, and safe. All you have to do is make a few minor adjustments, and women will be enamoured with you.

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Mind & Relationships

Writer, Director and Producer of @sirenVD | Author of #DepressionToMotivation

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