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15 Tempting Ways to Make a Guy Dream of Being with You and Want You

Sometimes men need a little prodding in the right direction. Here's how to make a guy want you so you can stop chasing after him and start having fun instead!

By berry liPublished 2 years ago 9 min read

Imagine the situation: You like the guy. He still doesn't seem to grasp the point despite all your efforts to encourage him to ask you out. You assume he likes you back because he's making some flirtatious gestures, but he hasn't taken any action yet. Obnoxious, no? To put it simply, you need to seriously push him in the correct way, which requires learning how to make a guy want you more than anybody else.

When you do that, he will start asking you out before you can respond!

It's also possible that he hasn't yet realized how much you like him. Sometimes, guys won't notice the flirtatious signals we throw their way.

But, with these tips, you’ll have him salivating over you and you won’t need to do any of the chasing yourself.

The dating game can be extremely competitive

Dating is a game in so many ways. He may be totally single and seeing nobody, but he could be dating other women. That means you have some competition and if you really like him, you’ll have to put in some work to make him see you and only you.

And that’s a very tough thing to do because we all know guys don’t exactly have the best attention span.

This is especially true if the guy you’re after is a catch. They’re far and few between. Meaning, every woman in her right mind who’s been on a date with him is trying to do exactly what you are. They want him for themselves!

And he might just be basking in the attention. When a guy catches wind that women are into him, he’ll milk that for all its worth.

But if you truly care about him and have a feeling he’s feeling the same about you, doubling down on your efforts to make him yours is a wise idea.

How to convince a guy to desire you and want you

We are aware that you are aware of his every move, so don't lie. There are a few things you may do to help draw a guy's attention in the proper direction—that is, in YOUR direction—if you've been eyeing him and desire him.

It's time to try a new approach and discover these simple techniques for making a guy want you.

1. Show your confidence

This is huge and probably the most important factor in learning how to make a guy want you. You need to be confident, and you need to show that you love yourself. That doesn’t mean being arrogant, simply knowing your worth and owning it.

There’s a reason why men drop their jaws when they see a woman walking confidently down the street – she is spewing sex appeal and confidence.

She doesn’t need them, and that’s what makes her sexy as hell. If you want the guy, you need to think that you don’t need the guy.

2.Body language is crucial.

Ever notice a couple enjoying a drink at the bar? Their feet are pointed in the opposite directions, and they are facing each other while bending forward.

You can convey your feelings to him through your body language before you ever speak, and then you can watch to see if he mirrors them back. Although it may sound strange, you'd be surprised at how well it works.

We're discussing creating eye contact, flirtatious touches, imitating his posture, and avoiding adopting a protective attitude by crossing your arms over your torso.

3. Increase the intensity

You want to stimulate him and raise his blood pressure. The greatest method to rouse him is to engage in an enjoyable activity that makes his body release adrenaline.

This could involve going on an amusement ride or bungee jumping. Get that parachute on because, believe it or not, excitement increases attractiveness and desire. He's going to want you if you come up with anything cool.

4. Copy him

This might sound like a weird strategy when learning how to make a guy want you. But basically, what you want to do is mimic and mirror the guy. You won’t have to try too hard with this one.

When you hang out with someone more and more, you end up developing similar mannerisms like listening to the same music, etc. You may not even realize it, but you’ll eventually start even copying their gestures.

5. Open up to him

You can only talk about the rain for so many minutes until it’s time to get into a deeper conversation. If you can’t open up to him, well, he won’t open up to you, and then you won’t be able to develop a connection.

But, that means one of you will have to make the first move in opening up. It can be scary, but if you feel that you can trust him as a person, then you should be able to share something personal about yourself.

6. Be around him

Now, please stop stalking him; that is not what we are attempting to achieve with this. You want to be with him and be in his presence. You get more attracted to someone the more time you spend with them.

Why do famous individuals often wind up dating people they worked with in movies? Because they have only been with that one person all day, every day for the previous six months. It therefore stands to reason.

If you can, try to hang out with him alone or in a small group. This is probably one of the more obvious methods for making a guy want you.

7. Connect with him

People enjoy spending time with folks who can relate to them. Therefore, this situation is not unique. Don't go overboard with this, but rather learn about his interests and strike up a conversation about one of them.

However, the catch is that you must genuinely be interested in the subject at hand; otherwise, it will come off as boredom when you start talking about old automobiles or hockey. However, once you've settled on a subject, you'll have something to talk about and he'll notice that you share a passion.

8. Maintain a little mystery

This is a great lesson in how to make a guy want you. Men like mystery, women like mystery – that’s why we love the chase. So, right now, you’re trying to lure the guy in and grab his attention.

You want to be a little mysterious. Don’t be completely silent, just don’t give him everything he wants. Keep some information to yourself – it’ll make him even more curious about you.

9. Reduce the drama

Listen, men are dramatic. They can be worse than women sometimes. But, one thing we know is that they don’t like listening to female gossip.

If a guy doesn’t like another guy, he makes it clear. But we women aren’t that upfront with our emotions, thus, it turns into gossip. So, instead of telling him your daily gossip news, call your best friend and unleash it onto them. It’s better that way, especially if you’re unable to not spread gossip.

The bottom line is – don’t gossip because it makes you look like an asshole.

10. Work your feminine side

Being feminine isn’t a negative trait. People always think it means that the woman is fragile and weak, but that isn’t what femininity is.

You can wear a dress and makeup and still be a strong woman. It’s okay to tap into your feminine side and sit with your legs closed or chew with your mouth shut. These things don’t make you a weak woman.

So, throw out those misconceptions and if you feel like showing your feminine side, then show it. Plus, men appreciate a woman who is strong and can still show her femininity.

11. Don’t be clingy

For the love of God, if you want to learn how to make a guy want you, then do NOT be clingy! Yeah, remember that guy who texted you once, and then he texted you again and again and again until you finally answered him? That relationship didn’t go too far, eh? People, in general, don’t like clingy people.

It makes them feel suffocated. Men are people. They don’t want a woman who is dependent and constantly needs attention and confirmation. So, if you want him to become interested in you, hang out with him, text him, do all those things.

However, don’t become suffocating. Let him ask you to hang out and start the conversation sometimes.

12. Encourage him to sniff

Why don't you use your aroma to draw him in? Sounds a bit animalistic, don't you think? However, that is ultimately who we are.

Spray a tiny bit of your preferred perfume on—don't use the entire bottle—and watch him fall head over heels for the seductive aroma. This is a method for making a guy want you that has been scientifically verified!

13. Flirt, but not too much Flirting is entertaining and allows you to push the envelope while keeping it in the amusing realm. But be careful not to cross too many flirting lines. You want to draw him in and maintain his interest.

You want to get him to chase you, so flirt and then back off a bit. You won't last very long if you immediately start laying out all of your finest flirting skills. You're going to need to exert authority over the situation if you want him.

14. Have your own life

The worst thing that can happen is letting him see that he’s the only thing that’s going on in your life. Even if that’s true, you can’t let him know that. Guys are interested in girls who are usually busy making plans for themselves.

You need to have your own life and activities that don’t include him. It not only will give you self-confidence, but it shows that he’s not your first priority – even though you’d like him to be.

Never make a guy your number one. That is something you always need to remember, but especially when learning how to make a guy want you.

15. Compliment him

Don’t go overboard on this or else you can look desperate. But complimenting a guy never hurt anyone. In fact, they’ll not only feel good, but they’ll notice that you’re noticing things about them.

Maybe he got a new haircut or is wearing a great-smelling cologne. So, just tell him what you think. He may take that as a sign that you’re interested in him, and well, that’s what you wanted.

One theme runs through all of these suggestions: don't come off as overly interested. It's not as simple as it seems, but if you stick to these pointers, you'll soon master the art of making a guy want you!


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