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10 Signs You or Someone Else Is Toxic

Let go of the toxicity in your life.

By j. lovePublished 5 years ago 5 min read
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1. Treating Someone like They Mean Diddly Squat

For those that don't know, diddly squat = nothing. Anyways, toxic people love to do this to people. They are manipulative and will have you thinking that they care about you. You will force yourself to make excuses for them and their behavior. Toxic people will keep someone around just because they don't want to let go of them yet. It's like they want to drain their energy first before saying goodbye.

2. Treating Someone Bad and Giving a Half-Hearted Apology

Someone who is toxic will say sorry and sure they may be kind of sorry but, it's not a sincere apology. You will see that person do the same thing still even after you told them about the issue they are creating. And even after you told them about the problem another time they will make what seems like a good excuse. For example, they might tell you an excuse like they take a long time to trust people. However, it shouldn't take a year to find out their middle name. That's an example of someone who doesn't care enough to make an effort but, they still come around when it's convenient for them.

3. They won't say thank you.

This quite literally irritates me. You can give that person the whole universe and they won't say two simple appreciative words. It takes like one and a half seconds to say thank you and if they don't say it, they don't appreciate you. And they might not even care about you. They will use your stuff and leave without a word. If you notice these things the first time, call them out on it.

4. They are controlling.

This person might actually tell you to shut up or be quiet. You will think it's a joke because you might've been playing with them but they are being dead serious. This person might run parts of your life and have you thinking it's okay because it just seems like suggestions at the time. Toxic people are very controlling, especially towards weak minded people. They don't like when someone has their own opinion and they will try to convince you over and over again that you are wrong. If something isn't going their way they will have a fit or argue with you despite you having authority over your own life and plans.

5. Always Have to Be Right

And with that, toxic people always have to be right. They rather make everyone sound stupid than have an educated conversation and maybe even say "you're right." They feel like your opinion or values don't matter and never will. They have automatically made your opinion inferior to theirs without even listening to you. I mean they really just don't like that you can have your own opinion and thoughts.

6. Speaking Badly About Others Close to Them

Toxic people will talk the most crap about people they are close with. For example, say you went out for a fun night with your friends. Maybe you got a bit drunk but not bad enough to where you can't take care of yourself. Well, you would assume that your friends will only talk about that night between the people who were there. Nope! Your so-called friend will go to other people that you may or may not know and talk about you in the worst way. They might say "Oh my gosh! She was so drunk, she couldn't take care of herself." They might even make things up about you to make you seem like you can't make good decisions for yourself. The fact of the matter is your "friend" shouldn't be spreading any negative information about you regardless of if it's true or false.

7. Constant Drama

Toxic people, boy do they love drama. Someone who is toxic will have an issue with literally everyone. They find a problem with the smallest things before they even meet that person. They will spread rumors and you'll get involved somehow because you are associated with them. Someone will just assume you don't like them because you hang with them or because the toxic "friend" brought up your name without you knowing.

8. Very Judgmental

Six, seven, and eight all tie into each other because some who is toxic will not only judge others harshly but you as well. They are so self-centered that even the smallest flaw will make them want to share their opinion about how they should fix this and that on someone else. Why don't they mind their business you say? I don't know but they should. It's almost like their life somehow allows them to talk bad about others even though they don't have it all together.

9. Play the Victim

Oh, my gosh! So, when you've finally had enough of their bull crap after all this time you decide to tell them how it is. You let it loose. You tell them about how manipulative they are, how they abused your time and friendship, all of it. Do you know what they do? They run to someone else and say you hurt them and that they don't know why you are so upset at them. I mean, what could they have possibly done wrong?

10. They won't apologize.

Someone who is toxic would rather stop talking to someone altogether before apologizing or admitting they are in the wrong. This will make you feel confused and like you need to go to them for answers on why they are ignoring you. Don't give into this! Someone who is toxic will feed off your neediness and assume that you can't live without them. This will create a gateway for them to become a repeat offender. They will hurt you and leave. You'll run after them. They will come back to do the same thing. Don't fall into a trap.

Fixing the Issue

For starters, you can't fix toxic people. Toxic people must fix themselves. The best thing to do is let go of them while you can. All of these things I mentioned are real things that have happened to me. I have forgiven these people because, in order to move on with my life and own growth I had to so without holding on to the past. Did it hurt? Yes. Did it take time? Yes. Am I friends with these people? No. It is important to move on and never go back to people or things that hurt you. If you are toxic or in a toxic relationship of any kind you have to get out of it. You don't need negative energy in your life.

A quote: "If it doesn't nourish your soul, get rid of it." —Unknown

Thank you for reading and for your support! Have a blessed week :)

P.S.

  1. 1. My computer is broken and I can't write it on my phone, unfortunately.
  2. 2. I've been busy with school so I can't always post when I want.

Sorry if it's been a while since I posted.

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