10 Signs That You're Not Yet Ready For A Relationship

There should be an easy pathway to check upon ourselves whether we are actually ready for a relationship or not, don't you think so ? Here, we have compiled ten different points to mark your checklist and figure out if you are ready for the relationship or not.

1. You are unable to define what is a healthy relationship

A healthy relationship is more than just looking at other couples and a mere imagination to be like them. It involves more commitment to each other, learning about yourselves so that you can have the new originality unlike others.

People who are unable to define a healthy relationship like to say things such as, "Let's just go with the flow" or "I don't want anything too serious."

Be sure you take time to explore first who you actually are, why do you have certain beliefs about relationships, and how you can become a better partner.

2. Your purpose and vision are blurred or missing.

Many relationships nowadays are without a purpose, they just begin nowhere and end somewhere without a reason. These relationships consist of individuals without a purpose and vision as well.

What is a purpose ? A purpose is a sense of why you exist and what you feel to accomplish in your time in whole lifetime and Your vision is what you have indicated are the objectives in the future you will accomplish.

Most of the people nowadays believe in putting the wagon before the horse and beginning a relationship then defining their purpose and vision. This often leads to finding a time-pass dating and investing in unfulfilling relationships while living an unfulfilling life.

Take a bit of time and explore your personal values. Establish your purpose and vision statements. Then live life as fulfilling as it is needed.

3. You have defined unhealthy relationship boundaries.

There are 3 main types of boundaries: rigid, porous, and healthy boundaries. Rigid boundaries mean you're more likely to avoid intimacy and close relationships and you may be described as emotionally detached in the relationship.

You want to keep others at a distance. Frankly, Not even a single partner will want to stay with you with these strict boundaries.

If you have porous boundaries, you have difficulty saying "no" to your partner's requests, even when you don't want to. Also, you over-assume responsibility for your partner's challenges, you are dependent upon their opinion of you, and you accept abuse and disrespect.

A partner may stay in the relationship with you to get as much as they can get out of you as a real self or they may leave because they feel too emotionally drained by your neediness.

It is only after you have healthy boundaries (i.e. you refuse to compromise your values for others, you accept your partner's "no", and you can communicate your needs and wants) that you are ready to be in a relationship.

4. Relationship is your "vaccination" for loneliness.

Being alone is often seen as a term for singles in today's times and most of the people perceive it as a prison sentence.

But loneliness is not similar to being single. Married people in counselling also complain about being lonely, unheard, "feel like a single parent", and others.

Loneliness or feeling alone is more about your relationship with yourself or what we call as self-love. Do you love yourself? Do you take care of your needs?

Resolve your loneliness before you become emotionally involved with someone by knowing your needs and requirements beforehand getting into a serious relationship.

5. You want to change yourself for others and not yourself

NEVER involve in a relationship that expects you to change everything about yourself and become a completely new person altogether. A healthy relationship is one that can make you leave your your bad habits, but it never makes you forget your individuality, and it embraces your personality with full vigour.

6. You feel desperate

This is one of the biggest reasons for failure in relationships. You should not be a desperate person. People who are desperate give off a highly negative vibe developing an uncomfortable environment, they aren't liked by most people, and they usually get into flings that make them guilty later in times for obvious reasons.

7. You need a saviour not a partner

Relationships can't save you; they can't take you out of a bad life; they can't fix all of your problems; relationships aren't for people with selfish needs but only for a person in a relationship. You and only you can save yourself and bring yourself out of the traumas you're facing. Once you're out of all of your bad situations and you don't need a saviour anymore, then you are ready to commit to someone.

8. You love drama

You need to be a pure heart (at-least with your partner) and straightforward before you can share a life with someone for lifetime. Be a loving person, don't fret about other people, don't feel interested in everyone else's problems, and focus on making your own life even more beautiful than ever.

9. You have trust issues

You don't believe in your ability to make important decisions in your own life and you feel anxious and unsure always. If you are not able to trust yourself, how are you going to trust another person?

10. You have feelings for your EX

You still have feelings for your ex, but that's not the issue or a problem. To be with someone new, you have to let go of someone old and begin afresh. If you're still hung up on what's been and gone, you need to work through that. It's not as simple as changing a mobile wallpaper but it's even worth more than that.