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10 Signs That You’re In Love With A Narcissist.

The truth is, we've all fallen in love with narcissists at some point.

By BingBingMoneyPublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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If someone's perpetually telling you that you're wonderful, but they ignore your needs for empathy and compassion, they might not love you as much as they say. Narcissist is often incapable of loving themselves or others. This leaves them feeling empty inside and needing constant ego boosts from the people close to them. This emptiness means that individuals who are in love with a narcissist might never be able to feel good enough — there will always be something more desirable out there waiting for them.

While narcissists usually do have a type of charm, they are often very self-centered and demanding. They might not be able to give you much time or get too upset if you have problems outside of their control. This causes many individuals to wonder what makes love with a narcissist so hard for them to leave at times. Here are the top 10 signs that you're in love with a narcissist:

1. You Refuse to Leave

Oftentimes people are easily able to leave relationships that have become toxic. Unfortunately, those who are in love with a narcissist tend to be much less likely to leave than those who aren't. They may still feel the sting of being left, but they know that the relationship will continue after a while and they can get back on their feet again.

Those who are in love with a narcissist tend to stay because they want somebody "special." Sometimes people stay in abusive relationships as a way to prove that they're not weak — sometimes it's idealizing the abuser and believing they can change them. Some people who are in love with a narcissist feel the same way. They might feel that they can make the person change by loving them and trying to be there for them. Unfortunately, they may find that they are unable to change the person entirely, which leaves them feeling trapped.

2. You Don't Think You're Good Enough

Many people in love with a narcissist might worry that they aren't good enough for their lover, this is what keeps them stuck. The problem is that it's not their fault that they don't measure up to deserve the attention and nurturing someone who is good enough to deserve it would give them.

Many people in love with a narcissist may not believe they have any good qualities at all. They may say things like, "I don't even have any good qualities," or "I'm a bad person." Narcissists are often egoistic, which can cause them to expect others to understand that they're wonderful even though they're bad at times. They might also ask you, "Tell me honestly — can I ever be good enough?" This can cause you to doubt everything about yourself and what you do and say at times, which is why you might feel like you aren't good enough for the narcissist.

3. You're Embarrassed About Being in a Relationship

Being in love with a narcissist can make you feel embarrassed as though you've done something wrong to deserve their attention. Many people who are in love with a narcissist might feel like they're not worthy of being loved, which is why they've decided that the relationship is too much for them to handle. They might also think that they will be rejected if they leave the relationship, so they try to keep things going as long as possible. This often leads to emotional and verbal abuse, which people can get addicted to.

4. You Feel Used

People who are in love with a narcissist might feel like they have to play the game in order to get attention from them. This means that you may feel like you're being used for the individual's personal gain instead of being loved for who you are. You might find yourself constantly trying to make the narcissist happy so that you can hear nice things about yourself. The thing is that narcissists usually don't care about your feelings if it doesn't benefit them in some way. If they tell their friends that you're great, they can use your relationship as a way to make themselves look good and many people are only too happy to help them do it.

5. You're Always Trying to Win Approval

People in love with a narcissist often feel like they have to win approval from their narcissist. This means that they will be trying harder to please them than the other way around. They might find that their self-esteem and sense of value are constantly changing, which means that one day they will feel great about themselves and the next day they won't. The problem is that people in love with a narcissist will often get into a pattern of trying too hard for approval, feeling like nothing is good enough, being rejected, and then feeling like nothing is wrong.

6. You Feel Insecure

Being in love with a narcissist can cause you to constantly worry about things. You might find that you're always trying to prove yourself in some way — either to the individual who is narcissistic or to other people. This can cause you to feel insecure more often than not, and the sad thing is that it makes you tend to be more controlling.

7. You're Always Trying to Do Things for Them

Being in love with a narcissist often means that you will want to do things for them out of concern for what they might think. Unfortunately, this can cause you to become obsessed with pleasing them and doing things exactly the way they want them done regardless of whether it's beneficial or if it's worth your time.

8. You've Blocked Off Other Relationships

People in love with a narcissist often end up with them because they know the relationship will eventually go away. They may not have been planning on being in a relationship for a long time, but sometimes people get caught up in relationships that cheat them out of other relationships.

In many cases, people are only able to be with somebody when they don't have other relationships going on at the same time. This is also why it's very hard for someone to leave after a narcissistic relationship has ended because the individual is already being picky about who they are potentially willing to date.

9. You Feel Powerless

Being in love with a narcissist often means that you feel like you have no power or control over the individual at all. You may feel like you're constantly trying to prove yourself and do things for them that are more than what's reasonable. This can make you feel powerless because you might feel like the person who is narcissistic takes whatever they want from you, even if it means they choose to give it away.

10. You're Afraid to Try New Things

People who are in love with a narcissist often don't want to try new things for fear that it won't work out and then they'll be rejected. They often harbor a lot of deep-seated insecurities, which makes them feel like they can't do anything without the approval of somebody else. Being with a narcissist will make you feel like you don't deserve to find somebody better so you try to stick around, but the truth is that no one is perfect and you shouldn't wait for someone perfect to come along before you start dating again.

In Conclusion...

Narcissists are absolutely amazing and wonderful people....as long as they have what they want, which is often all of the attention in any particular situation. The thing is, if you're in love with a narcissist, they don't give a damn about us and we'll never be happy.

The key to happiness is to simply be happy which means doing things that make you feel good about yourself rather than doing things for somebody else in order to gain their approval. Narcissism is really not that big of a deal as long as people realize how special and important they are just being themselves. The people who are unhappy in relationships with narcissists are those who don't realize this and who are too caught up in the details of the relationship.

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