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10 Relationship Tips For Single Ladies

This is a shout-out to all the single ladies, whether you're new to dating or have been there and done that. Here are 10 Relationship Tips For Single Ladies

By Vincent OtiriPublished 3 years ago 5 min read
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10 Relationship Tips For Single Ladies
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We understand how difficult it can be to navigate the potentially dangerous waters of a relationship – balancing your needs against what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship, as well as the inherent sense of failure you feel if you don't succeed or if your knight in shining armor is taking his sweet time arriving.

However, here's some advice from people who have gone before you - and who are currently in your shoes.

Here are 10 relationship suggestions for single women that will keep you grounded and on the path to true happiness, whether you're in a relationship or not.

1. Before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself.

No one can make you entire if you aren't already whole. Before anyone else can fall in love with you, you must first fall in love with yourself. Many often, the need to be accepted by others is really a want to be accepted by yourself – therefore make yourself your own biggest source of self-esteem, and others will be drawn to your radiance!

2. Take It Easy!

Many of those ooey-gooey couples report that they knew right away on their first date that this was the one. Regardless of how many times bae tells us that if he loves it, he should put a ring on it, bear in mind that not every date is a potential mate. You shouldn't send out save the dates after one great date. This places excessive expectations on both of you, and it can lead to obsessive behavior and overemphasis. Relax and get to know the individual – and quit fantasizing about how your future children will appear!

3. A man isn't a lump of clay that you can shape.

It's a cliche: a woman marries a guy in the hopes that he would change, and a man marries a woman in the hopes that she will not. The truth is, unless you're a highly-skilled hypnotist, don't expect to transform anyone. While you have every right to voice your view and advise to your partner that they meet your expectations, the decision to change is ultimately theirs.

4. If you keep doing the same things, you won't get different results.

It's all too easy to get caught in a habit, and after a while, we may start to accept that way of life as normal. It's inevitable that dating the same type of guy or repeating the same behavior in a relationship will end in the same outcomes. If you want to make a change, try something new.

5. Take pleasure in yourself

Whether you believe it or not, you will most likely not remain single indefinitely, so make the most of the time you have to yourself. Work on your career, your physical, mental, and emotional health, and getting into a position where you can give someone your best.

6. Don't make excuses for people who should be taken out of your life.

People who are dead weight and pop-ins are the two types of people you don't have time for. The dead weights absorb your time and energy for little or no return, while the pop-ins come and go at their leisure, leaving you in the dark. It may be difficult to let go of these people, but we guarantee you will feel lighter and more in control of your life once you do.

7. Don't Be A Boyfriend's Wife

It's normal for a woman to want to demonstrate a man what a fine wife she'd make - after all, we're nurturers by nature. It's OK to show a man that you care and love him, but don't give too much of yourself away too quickly to someone who doesn't deserve it.

8. Don't mix together love and lust.

It's critical to distinguish between what feels good to you and what's healthy for you. The faster you give in to those hormonal desires, the more difficult it will be to tell the difference. Don't sacrifice future needs to suit current desires, and don't mistake love and lust.

9. Everything takes time.

Nothing occurs overnight, and the more you want it, the more frustrated you will become as time passes. You'll miss out on the romance and fun of that unique courting period if you're stressing about when the ring will arrive. If you're keen to have a child straight away, you'll miss out on the honeymoon time, which helps to cement your marriage. Things take their own time to happen. Have trust that there is a master plan in place and that you are a part of it.

10. Don't Worry If You Reach The Big "3-0"

Something about reaching that age causes us to reconsider every life decision we've ever made. If you've arrived, or even if you're still on your way, it can be a source of stress, anxiety, and despair if things aren't going as planned. Don't be the woman who is concerned with finding a partner or who is continuously sad about not having one, resulting in her feeling desperate, settling, and/or overwhelmed with melancholy because she is preoccupied with what isn't rather than what is.

Keep your focus on the now. Spending time regretting how you believe life should look rather than how it actually does is a waste of time. Instead, empower yourself by making excellent decisions for yourself and finding joy in all the beautiful things in your life right now, because there are plenty!

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