10 Dominating Signs of an Overprotective Boyfriend & How to Fix Him

It's possible for an overly protective partner to be really in love with and concerned for you. But is that really a justification for him to pull the strings, rule you, and run your life?

Between being overprotective and compassionate and being overprotective and domineering, there is a fine line.

But domineering behavior almost invariably goes hand in hand with overprotective behavior.

There is a very high likelihood that a man who is very protective will also be quite domineering and controlling.

He might not even be aware of it. And naturally, he might not always confront you directly!

Instead, he may have better ways to manipulate you and make you feel guilty about everything you do until you break from the inside and start to believe that he’s right and you’re wrong… all the time!

Want to know the difference between a protective and loving boyfriend, and an overprotective and dominating boyfriend? Read these 33 signs and qualities that make a perfect boyfriend to know more.

The controlling and overly cautious husband and boyfriend

Not all husbands or boyfriends consciously attempt to dominate their relationships. It could begin with pathetic cries and innocent allegations. But when you gradually give in more and more out of love for your lover, it could eventually develop into a power struggle.

A controlling partner may attempt to use force on you from time to time. However, a dominant man may back off for a bit when he notices that you are continuously fighting against his attempts to control you before secretly arm-twisting you when you least expect it.

After all, a possessive and dominating guy doesn’t always have to use force to dominate you and make you believe he’s only doing something to protect you.

All he has to do is find the right circumstances to say something that’ll make you doubt yourself!

The surest signs to know your boyfriend is overprotective and dominating

Not all possessive guys would try to dominate you to your face. Instead, they’d try to get to know things about you by snooping behind your back.

They act like the nicest guys in the world and try to persuade you that they are right and that everyone is against you when they find the appropriate opportunity to damage you or hit you in a vulnerable area.

It's possible that you won't notice the warning signs until you start to feel weak and alone, completely dependent on your partner.

And then, one day *too late*, you might just begin to see that the world isn't all awful and that your man was merely manipulating you to turn against everyone else in order to rule and own you exclusively.

After reading these indicators of a possessive and covertly dominant male, consider whether any of them apply to your own relationship.

When you see how your "kind and charming" partner is using isolation and submission as a means of controlling you, you should start pushing him away before you lose everything to his whims and antics.

1. He’s snoopy

He eavesdrops on your conversations with your friends, when you’re talking over the phone, texting, or reading your emails.

Sometimes, you may even catch him scanning your phone’s call logs. And at other times, he may confront you with your phone bill and ask you to explain why you’ve been calling a particular friend so much!

2. Everyone likes you

Each time you speak to a guy or laugh at his joke, your boyfriend accuses you of flirting with the guy or encouraging him to flirt with you.

He constantly tells you that every guy you talk to has a crush on you or is being nice to you only because that guy finds you attractive.

And when some guy tries to hit on you out of the blue or tries to ask you out, your boyfriend says “I told you so!” like it was your fault.

3. Your personal life

When you want to do something by yourself, your guy despises it. He acts as though he has a duty to monitor everything you do—obviously for your safety. And he is always happiest when he is the center of your life.

4. He has an advantage.

Being one step ahead of you is another indication that your guy is being overly protective. He acts as though he is your boyfriend even though you are only starting to date. And after he starts dating you, he attempts to act like your husband!

He always has the upper hand when it comes to commitment, especially if he notices that you have a lot of male pals.

5. Beck and call

You always have to be available for him, even if you’re out with friends or want to spend a day by yourself.

He expects you to take his call and chat to him for as long as he wants, regardless of whether you're eating dinner with friends or engaged in a serious topic. Otherwise, he merely gets furious or ignores you.

6 Envy

No matter how much you demonstrate your affection for him, he is fiercely envious. He complains about how you treat him all the time or claims that he doesn't think you love him as much as he does.

7. He frightens you

He is pleased when you agree with him more or keep your distance from other people in order to increase his sense of security or love in the relationship.

You might not be aware of this yet, but the more uncomfortable and awkward you feel around people, the happier and more at ease he feels about the relationship.

8. Disputes

Your husband despises it when you compliment someone else. He begins to despise everyone who appears to be high on your list of pleasant people, and he relentlessly seeks out flaws in those you hold in high regard in an effort to persuade you that they aren't really that terrific.

9. Opposing views

A dominating boyfriend wouldn’t like it if you oppose his views or want to do something that’s against his wishes.

Instead of just accepting the difference in opinion, he would force you into believing that he’s right and you’re wrong.

10. The supportive touch

Regardless of whether he can help you or not, he wants you to go to him whenever you have a problem.

He gets upset if you ask for aid from others or complete a task on your own since he wants you to see him as your lone resource for everything.

He's unintentionally attempting to rely on you in this way so he may shape you into the ideal representation of the girlfriend he's created in his mind.

A devoted boyfriend is not at all awful. But if his protective nature goes into overdrive and he begins to exhibit the majority of these characteristics of an obnoxious and controlling boyfriend, you need to give this some serious attention.