Women who are Loud During Sex don't Necessarily Enjoy it

Aurora Snow, a porn star, revealed earlier this month how tough it is for her to find a place to live in Los Angeles.

When she declares her occupation on the rental agreement, landlords worry that she'll have a lot of guys over for sex and that the sex will be so noisy that it will disturb and terrify the neighbors.

In other words, they believe she will film noisy porn on the premises, but that even if she does not, her regular sexcapades will be loud, since loose women are loud fuckin'.

Women are not only discriminated against but often imprisoned for having noisy sex. Gemma Wale, a British woman, was sentenced to two weeks in prison in 2015 for "screaming and shouting while having sex," which was termed disruptive conduct that bothered her neighbors.

When practically everything culturally teaches women that they must make sounds during sex or they aren't doing it correctly, it's a bizarre paradox.

Furthermore, if you don't scream your head off, you risk confounding the poor man who is attempting to transport you to the pinnacle of ecstasy.

In other words, did a man make a woman come if he fucks her in a forest and she doesn't scream? It's a case of damned if you shout, damned if you don't.

Researchers looked into why women make so much noise during copulating, especially at the end when he's getting off, a few years ago, and discovered that it has little to do with an actual orgasm she's having, as most women experience orgasm during foreplay.

It turns out that 66 percent of women believe that the loud verbal ending is to encourage the male to go sooner. They do it to increase a man's self-esteem, according to 87 percent of respondents.

Others claim they do it to avoid boredom or pain while doing the deed.

Isn't it exactly the screamed thumbs up you expected?

This is significant: the vast majority of women claim they moan and scream not because it's a natural, inescapable vocal reaction to pleasure, but because they need to make a lot of noise so men don't believe they're not having fun.

Women, on the other hand, do not expect males to create the same spectacle out of fucking, and men do not feel any pressure to make sex noises, regardless of whether a woman wants them to for the same reasons.

There's an obvious case that in conventional hetero sex, which starts with a man's boner and ends with his ejaculate, women have a better means of knowing he's having fun: he shows up.

Because a woman's orgasm is more elusive, feigned, or never occurs, it's reasonable to assume that a woman putting on an operatic performance is the closest a guy can go to receiving any reaction. You may rest assured that you're fucking her properly if she's wailing in convulsive delight.

In the music world, this is known as false feedback: no, you're not that excellent at fucking, no, it doesn't feel as amazing as she claims, and no, you're not the best lover she's ever had.

You may as well be a mediocre cover band performing to a room full of drunks whose favorite song happens to be "Wild Thing," which explains why they are ecstatic.

Men, on the other hand, don't seem to mind the erroneous feedback as long as it makes them appear like tiger kings in the sack.

So clearly, women have taken notice, and some of them are taking this cultural imperative much too seriously. This nonsense is even encouraged in women's publications, with articles like "9 Reasons Why You Should Be Having LOUD Sex."

It's empowering, sister, in the language of everything women's magazines, teach women to do. Because you can think you're in a hot sex scene, you'll have wonderful sex and everyone will know it, and your spouse will have a better climax!

And, once again, EVERYONE KNOWS YOU'RE A DUMBASS. Wonderful.

I'm not saying that making noises is a negative thing, or that good sex doesn't involve grunts and groans.

It's one thing to hear the hammering of a headboard next door accompanied by passionate vocalizations; it's quite another to witness a one-woman performance that makes it sound like she's going through an epic erotic larval change akin to being sexually reborn all because she met a dick.

We'd all be noisy-ass masturbators if the pleasure of penetration or touch was the sole motivation for belting out animalistic wails.

Most people, on the other hand, masturbate in quiet and have no problem disguising their behavior in the next room. Anyone who has had silent sex in the next room while staying at their parents' house knows it's completely feasible. You've just fucked it up.

This is why making loud sex noises makes no sense. It's not that no noise makes sense; it's just that there's a clear distinction between false and genuine, and there needs to be some type of medium ground that connects real feelings with real sounds. The presence of some noise shows that both parties are enjoying themselves.

Everyone feels strange when there is no noise. Too much noise makes it appear as though someone is putting on a show rather than feeling the more spontaneous, genuine pleasure that comes from being physically intimate.

However, there is a type of vocal sex that sounds double standard as a result of this strange expectation: Women are too noisy and men are too silent.

And not everyone is deafeningly deafeningly deafeningly deafeningly deafeningly de On message boards, men frequently inquire whether the loud noises are real.

Men respond that the louder the better, as long as it's real (which it isn't). Others feel it's embarrassing when their female spouses go beyond. Even guys who find it uncomfortable feel compelled to explain that getting the female who acts like a porn star is "every guy's fantasy."

Some individuals recognize that behaving like you're "cumming the whole time" makes you appear — surprise, surprise - phony.

Women frequently inquire on forums as to why their lovers are as loud as a dead man when they are fucking, and whether this indicates that he does not approve.

The takeaway here is that making a convincing noise indicates that something feels wonderful to you and that you're secure enough to express it. And those who don't are either bashful or used to cumming in silence. It might possibly simply be "how he is," which women should accept.

Obviously, you shouldn't expect a man to create a lot of noise only to make you feel safe. That, after all, is exactly what women do.

Furthermore, research on copulating voices only focuses on women's noises, never men's.

However, investigations on women's vocalizations can still provide some useful information. In another study, researchers discovered that lesbian couples moan and groan far less than in heterosexual relationships.

Lesbian couples experience far more genuine orgasms than heterosexual couples, which is not accidental in the least.

You could be tempted to draw the conclusion that hetero women make more sounds during sex because they feel obligated to, but lesbians don't need to pretend enjoyment for other women who will provide them with genuine pleasure. This is the correct conclusion.

Hetero women may learn from this and tone down their performances. It may cause guys to question if you're truly getting off, which may be the only incentive for them to genuinely get you off.

If you simply keep shouting, he'll continue to think he's a Wild Thing.