What Is Oral Sex?

Is it real sex?

What Is Oral Sex?

When we are talking about sex, it can mean more than just one thing. Oral sex is one type of sex that people can engage in. It involves the use of the mouth and tongue to stimulate the genital or anal region of someone else. The whole purpose of oral sex is pleasure. It's not possible for pregnancy to occur from oral sex.

Is Oral Sex Real Sex?

Many people don't define oral sex as sex. It is seen as different because it can't result in a pregnancy. Also much of the historical literature about sex only refers specifically to intercourse as sex. Previous generations have not considered whether or not it falls specifically into the definition.

If it's not sex, then why is it called "oral SEX"? The truth is that oral sex is a sexual act and can transmit an STI. It is a form of sex. For some couples, it is the main kind of sex that they have. Including oral sex in the definition of sex sees sexuality as more of a complete whole and for more than just reproduction. It acknowledges that sex is also performed for pleasure.

Types of Oral Sex

Depending on what area of the body is being focused on, oral sex can take on some different names. There are different tips, tricks, and considerations for different types of oral sex. What works well for one type, won't necessarily transfer to another type. Giving them different names also helps people find the literature they are looking for when they are trying to read up on it. So what are the different types of oral sex? There is fellatio, cunnilingus, and anilingus.

Fellatio, more commonly called a blowjob, is when oral sex is performed on a penis. The word fellatio comes from the Latin noun fellatus, which means "to suck." Cunnilingus is when oral sex is performed on a vulva. The word comes from the Latin words cunni and Lingus which translates to vulva licking. Anilingus, also referred to as rimming or tossing salad, is when oral sex is performed on the anus. It comes from the Latin words anus and Lingus which translates to anus lick.

Oral Sex is Part of Our History But Still a Personal Choice

Oral sex is not new, it's been around for a long time. There is documented art and writing from previous generations as well as ancient civilizations documenting oral sex as a normal activity among people. Despite it being a long part of the history of sex, no one is under any obligation to participate in oral sex. Just because people do, and people can, doesn't mean that anyone has to.

Some people really love oral sex while others don't find it anything special. What kinds of sexual activities a person enjoys will vary widely from person to person. It is based on our preconceived notions, our history, and our experiences. If someone feels resistant to oral sex, there is usually a reason for it. Whether or not a person moves beyond that reason to engage in it is entirely up to them. Respect their level of consent.

Take Charge of Your Sexuality

The more you learn about sexuality and yourself, the more you will be able to make informed choices about what activities you wish to participate in. It's important that you take time to consider what you are interested in trying and what you are not. This is the first step in being able to find out what you like. Taking charge of your sexuality is all about being able to articulate what you enjoy.

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Teela Hudak
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