These 12 things you should really try in bed

If you always follow the same pattern in bed, you shouldn’t be surprised if you run out of steam at some point. Life (and love) is change — and that should also apply to your sex life from today. Want some inspiration? We have compiled the most effective sex tips for beginners and advanced for you — plus various tricks on how to make your partner really crazy.

1. sex tip: make the afterplay the foreplay

After the big fireworks is the perfect opportunity to try new things together. Because some women are especially sensitive after sex. And things that might not have gotten you going in foreplay could now be perceived as very intense and pleasurable. In addition, men and women feel disinhibited after orgasm and are more willing to try new things now, such as sex toys. Since you’ve both already gotten your money’s worth, there’s also no pressure for things to climax. Just enjoy the fun of experimenting!

2nd tip to drive her crazy: Engage in sexting

Use your phone to make each other want to see each other again. Write what you would like to do together when you meet again. Or remind your loved one of the last hot night. What made you especially hot on that night? Her lingerie, the position, the location, her sexy hips? Write her exactly that! Start slow so you don’t catch her off guard. How? Like, “Your butt in those jeans you had on this morning — wow!” or “The way you touched me yesterday. I can hardly think about anything else today”

3rd sex tip: Open the windows, but keep the curtains closed.

Apart from the pleasant breeze that gently strokes your naked bodies, it gives many a special kick if the neighbors could hear their moans. The mixture of fear, adrenaline and desire acts like an erotic booster. You want to take it to the extreme? Move your lovemaking outside to the backyard at dusk in the summer. True, the chance of getting caught is very slim. But the exciting thought of it and the urgency are real sharpeners.

4. tip for better sex: scratch her head.

Especially if you’re serious about her. Why? Because there are countless nerve endings in the scalp that, when stimulated, can trigger a veritable flow of hormones, such as oxytocin, that enhance the feeling of being intimately connected. And since a good scalp massage isn’t automatically linked to sex, it’s the perfect way into a long evening of proper sizzle between you — which quite often ends with sex and a desire to deepen the relationship between you.

5th tip for better sex in the relationship: grope extensively.

Petting is not just for teenagers. Couples who have been together for a long time also benefit from advanced groping. Petting means that you devote a long and intense time to your bodies, but refrain from penetration. This takes the pressure off both of you to perform, and at the same time increases trust and affection. In addition, you get to know your partner’s body and your own better.

7th sex tip you should try: raid the freezer.

Sex experts agree that ice cubes make any lovemaking session instantly hotter. It’s not just because the sensation of cold stimulates the same part of the nervous system that’s active during arousal. It’s also because the shock of cold abruptly lures the brain to the here-and-now, away from all the stress of the job and the things you’re supposed to be doing. Run an ice cube slowly over her hips or make your way up her thighs to very close to the center of her pleasure.

8th trick for sex life: lubricate properly.

A U.S. study from Indiana University showed that women who used a water- or silicone-based lubricant during sex ranked their sexual pleasure and satisfaction higher than when they had intercourse without lubricant. Therefore, from now on: Always keep lube handy in the places you like to do it most. And make sure to apply it sensually during foreplay, such as with a gentle intimate massage.

9. share fantasies, but with the right actors.

Revealing your most intimate sex fantasies to each other sounds great at first. But your beloved surely doesn’t want to hear how exactly you would do it with Emilia Clarke aka Daenerys Targaryen on one of her dragons. Just think about it: you don’t want to know what your partner would do in bed with Brad Pitt. Better: Share with your sweetheart lustful fantasies in which she has — or had — the star role. For example, start with the hottest moments in your relationship: Tell her what exactly made you so hot at that moment. The more you know about each other, what really turns you on, the better — and more frequent — your sex will be.

10. try the best sex position for mutual orgasm.

Several studies at once have looked at the question of which sex position virtually guarantees a woman’s orgasm. Forget the Kama Sutra: The CAT position (Coital Alignment Technique) is all you need for that. Translated, CAT roughly means “position of sexual congruence” and is a variation of the missionary position. Here’s how it works: You lie on top of her. After penetration, she closes her legs and presses them slightly together, while you slide up until your pelvic bones are on top of each other. Now slide your hips up and down as she moves along. This will cause your pubic bone to slide over her clitoris again and again, greatly increasing the likelihood of a shared orgasm.

11. tip: Strengthen the pelvic floor

Is that only for women? No way! With strong pelvic floor muscles, you can last much longer during sex. To do this, you need to train the so-called PC muscle. Where is it? You can find it when you stop the flow of urine in the toilet — the muscle that does the work is the sex muscle. You train it by tensing it briefly several times a day and then relaxing it again. Start with 5 seconds and work your way up to 30, relaxing your buttocks and abdominal muscles so you can concentrate fully on your pelvic floor. By the way, a strong PC muscle not only increases your stamina, but also intensifies your orgasm.

12. create a vacation atmosphere in everyday life

Whenever you go on vacation together, do you fall greedily over each other? Think about why that is. Exactly: Because you consciously put all the everyday stress aside, relax — and usually in a place that gives you the necessary peace and seclusion. But what works on vacation also works best in everyday life. Try it out: A change of location works wonders, because your home is now everyday life — and that’s exactly what you need to avoid. Concentrate on getting rid of as many distractions as possible, then the desire usually comes all by itself — just like on vacation.

Conclusion: It’s easy to freshen up your sex life.

It doesn’t take much change or effort to properly spice up your sex life and make it more multi-faceted. Just do yourself a favor and never stop trying new things in bed and thinking about what could make sex even better for both of you. We’ll get you started, and now you take over!