How to pamper her clitoris properly

What exactly is the clitoris anyway?

Welcome to the center of female pleasure! It’s hidden in the fold where the labia meet. In terms of arousal, the little pink peak is the equivalent of the glans of your penis, only — sorry — much more sensitive. That’s because the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, around 8000 receptors. “These make the clitoris decidedly sensitive,” says American author and sexologist Dr. Debby Herbenick of the University of Indiana. But the little dot is not all that makes up the clitoris.

The bulk of the pleasure organ lies behind the mountain, so to speak, inside the female body. “The clitoris has two erectile tissues that look like the handles of a divining rod and protrude about seven centimeters inward to the right and left along the vaginal wall,” explains Ian Kerner, author of the how-to book “More Pleasure for Her” (Goldmann, at 9 euros). “This gives it enormous range, especially since the erectile tissue fills with blood when aroused. The clitoris is the powerhouse of orgasm because it is connected to all the important structures of the vagina,” says the erotic expert.

What do I have to do with the clitoris?

1. proceed as you would with your best piece, because the clitoris and its pleasure-loving owner also love nothing more than direct, steady stimulation with your hand or mouth. These are the main rules:

2. expose clitoris, gently guide fingers to it.

In case of initial dryness, do not rub, it hurts. Rather apply gentle pressure.

3. it slips even better with moisture — gentle and uniform rubbing makes your partner tremble on the waves of pleasure.

“Most people think of the clitoris as a small bud under their skin hood, but it actually extends far into the female body,” explains U.S. sex educator Lou Paget. “When you rub your tongue along the tip of the clit with rapid movements, you’re not only capturing a larger zone, you’re stimulating areas your tongue doesn’t even reach.” If you’re unsure, ask — no master has fallen from the sky yet.

How exactly does clitoral satisfaction work?

The important thing is to push the clitoral hood a little bit to the side. Don’t worry, there’s nothing to break. Just gently pull it back, then make quick, twitching movements with your tongue as far as it can capture the tiny clitoral shaft.

Which sex position stimulates the clitoris best?

Stimulating the clitoris with the penis is a bit more complicated and works best in positions where you are on top. Specifically aimed at clitoral contact is a variant of the missionary position, which you may know: For this, you lift yourself further towards the head of the bed until the penis shaft provides friction at the power point. Your beloved will sigh. If you then move in circles inside her instead of just thrusting (keeping penis root contact), she will moan as this stimulates the clitoris even more. This way you’ll surely drive the lady to orgasm.

A little additional information: If the pressure becomes too great, the clitoris retracts under the small clitoral hood shortly before the big bang because it feels overstimulated. Usually, at this point at the latest, women crave vaginal stimulation, i.e. penetration. In other words, she wants to feel your best piece inside her, but hurry up! The beloved will literally urge her to do so.

Vibrato effect: How it comes to the “Schnurrgasmus”.

There’s a reason vibrators are so popular. “Every time the skin is touched by something vibrating, the sensations spread over a much larger area than when it’s stimulated directly and continuously,” explains Lou Paget, “You’re activating twice as many nerves with half the effort.” If you sweeten that up with direct touch at the right time in the right place — such as the clit — you’re likely to bring her to orgasm.”

How do you do this exactly?

Relax your lips and hum a melody. With the outermost part of your kissing mouth, touch the outside of her clit, the small hood over the bud and her labia. Slowly move your mouth around her clit. When she can’t take it anymore, rhythmically tap her clit with your fingertip or gently lick all over her clit a few times.

Conclusion: The clitoris is the center of female pleasure.

The clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis and is, so to speak, the powerhouse of the female orgasm. Be gentle with it, though. Most women like direct, steady stimulation with their hand or mouth. If you’re unsure, ask — no master has fallen from the sky yet. How would you know exactly what feels like what? And not everyone likes the same thing.