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A Natural Need and Want for Sex

Personal opinion on sex

By Scarlett PricePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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Men want sex. Some women want it just as much. It all comes down to satisfying your partner beyond physical and mental stimulation. Men desire a woman who can fulfill the basic needs of a relationship and fulfill other needs in the bedroom. If sex suffers, then the relationship suffers. I know you are thinking: Why should it suffer if I’m being a good partner?

A relationship is complex and has many things that make it what it is. A relationship can be viewed as a whole puzzle. Each component of the relationship is a piece of the puzzle. If sex isn’t being fulfilled, then the puzzle isn’t complete. The key to wanting sex and being able to fulfill that need is how you are being treated in the relationship; how you feel wanted or not wanted and if you are prioritizing things to make the relationship work.

You should have emotional needs filled by positive remarks to your partner. Encourage and support one another and give compliments now and then. Comment on their appearance if he’s looking dashing or she’s looking amazing. Words can be a great way of boosting your desire for each other if you use them appropriately. If you suffer emotionally by being neglected by your partner, then the relationship will fail. If your partner emotionally abuses you, then you aren’t valuable to them. A healthy mind and a good state of well-being are crucial in a relationship.

If you don’t feel worthy, important, or valued in your relationship then how can you desire to have sex? How is it possible to jump in bed with someone who isn’t a positive person to you? You will be a dead fish. When a person is treated well, their desire to have sex with you and be around you will increase. If you feel wanted, then you will want to feel wanted in every aspect there is with another person. Men want a sexual deviant behind closed doors. They want a porn film with their significant other. The bedroom, it’s the one moment a man can have his woman to himself outside of responsibilities, motherhood, and work. It’s where all his sexual tension can be released. It’s where he can feel like a king.

Darling, you can work a full-time job, raise children and take care of the house. Behind the bedroom doors, your partner wants to strip you down, discover your body, make you moan and be pleasured in a way only he can. The same can be said for some women. It’s just my opinion of what a man wants, and how to keep him from wandering. I believe men, to an extent, have a higher sex drive than women do. Everyone has desires and wants to be wanted. We are far from perfect, but even the marriage that seems picture-perfect isn’t always. If sex is lacking, then you and your partner need to work on it. If not men will wander even when you think they wouldn’t. The same can be said for a woman.

These views, thoughts, and opinions are mine and are from my experiences. They are also from talking to some men about what they want. I’m just a woman who wants to help men and women out there to better themselves and their relationships.

If you want a healthy and long-lasting relationship, it requires effort from both partners. Relationships are always 50/50. Talk with your partner and find ways to make the relationship thrive. Conversations with one another are the blood supply to nourish the well-being of the relationship. If you don’t know what’s hurting the relationship, then how can you fix it? If your partner feels that their sexual or emotional needs are being neglected, then how can you improve the relationship? How is it possible to do your share of the relationship when you can’t communicate with each other about what is taking place?

I’ve said it before: If you can’t communicate, then maybe that’s not the partner for you. If you do everything on your part to fill all the needs of the relationship, and your partner still wanders, then you must understand that you weren’t valued or appreciated. You have to understand that you have worth. Do your part and help encourage your partner to do their part. If it doesn’t work, then you need to increase your price tag.

If you are in a relationship or want to be in one, put forth the work to make it happen. You have a crown to wear proudly and are worthy of so much.

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About the Creator

Scarlett Price

I am a mom, and a domestic violence survivor. I love writing, reading, yoga, cake decorating and baking. I recently took up belly dancing. Writing is my passion and healing. Stay positive!

https://linktr.ee/mullinscasey

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