Your Children will Obey you After Changing these simple things

MY STORY

Working at a daycare is not an easy task in general, especially when you are the only one supervising. My very first day I was thrown in to a room with 8 kids screaming and running around. The company didn’t train me, because little did I know, they hired me as a filler for a few weeks while their friend was on vacation who really wanted the job. When this friend of theirs got back, they fired me. I then used that experience to get another daycare job at a more established And well known company, Golds Gymn.

MY OBSERVATIONS

While working at the day care, there were shy kids and there were roudy kids, but on one particular day there was chaos. A child and his brother made it a point to pour all of the toys in the bins all over the ground so that they could watch me clean it up when they wouldn’t. What made it worse was that this was the busiest day of the entire year. Kids were everywhere, throwing toys, falling off of play sets, and there were even a couple injuries. You can Imagine how stressed I was, and when you are not the parent, you are not allowed to disipline these children. It was all I could do to stop people from getting in fights. I tried calling in for a backup but no one could come. Workingn with so many children, I was able to observe all types of children’s behaviors from all different backgrounds.

THE LITTLE BOY

One day, a new kid came in. He was the cutest little blonde boy about 6 years old. He was the only child that would pick up his toys on his own without me even asking him to. He said please and thank you, he never talked back, and the only words I could describe him as was just angelic. When his father came to get him, I had to ask for his secrets. “How did you raise such a perfect child?” I asked. “What is your secret?” He said that there were three main things that he does different than most parenets, and as long as you implement these three things, it works nearly every time. This peaked my attention.

THE THREE TIPS

”I worked in the military.” He said “ I learned about respect, and discipline.”

1. They are your equal

The first thing he told me, I wasn’t expecting. He told me that often parents need to realize, that we need to treat a child just like you would any other relationship. If your wife is listening to a podcast in the kitchen, and it is too loud, then you would not say “Turn that off, go do somthing else.” No, you would simply meet in the middle, and you would ask her to turn it down or put ear buds in. “Well, it’s the same with a child, if your child is watching TV in the living room, and it is too loud, simply ask them to turn it down, if you always have it your way, they will not respect you. They will start to become bitter or tell you that you are not being fair. Children need to feel respected as well. It is important in any relationship to meet in the middle and to give and take.

2. Choose your battles

When you really do need to discipline your child because they are doing something inappropriate, then you obviously need to say something, form some rules and lay the groundwork. However, if you are always getting on their case, you really need to pick and choose your battles with them. If your child is throwing toys all over the ground, maybe you should just stick to bickering about the crayons that they just colored on the wall, or the cheetos that they flung on the white carpet. Besides, if they know that one of the rules is to clean up after themselves, to them it allows them to have more freedom to play how they want to play.

3. Consistency, and going through with your word

The third thing this young father told me, was that it is important to always go through with a punishment. The children need to know that they cannot get away with something by begging, crying, or throwing a fit. No matter how much they rebuttle, giving in just one time trains them that they can manipulate you. You MUST go through with your discipline. Always always always. One time, I noticed a sweet old lady at the grocery store who was coaxing her grandchild away from the treat section. This grandmother, bless her soul, could not say no to the child and was very inconsistent with her responses. At first the grandmother said, maybe, then what kind would you want, then tried explaining why they needed to continue shopping. Now I realize that maybe it was not in her authority to just say no to the child. It could have been the parents rules, as some parents think it is harmful to the child’s development to tell their kid no. However, this is so far from the truth. A child needs to know what is good for them and what is not. What is acceptable in society and what is not. Be consistent with your words and go through with them.

CONCLUSION

These things are simple yet powerful to incorporate into your child raising techniques. I will definitely include them into mind when I have little kiddos of my own. These things if done the right way, will help you build trust, respect, and consistency in your relationship with your children. They will harbor love in the home, as well as discipline. They will make your children trained instead of them training you! I hope this helps. Make sure to SHARE it with your friends! Also, check out my other articles for more tips on child raising!