This is Why "Child Support" Is Actually Just A Form Of Extortion

My friend has a child from his previous relationship. He is a loving father who fought for the sole custody of his children. The system sides with mothers and he have received the maximum contact with his children.

His ex suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder and has been methodically alienating the children from their father. He raised his concerns with the court — they reinforced the order.

However, nothing prevents his ex from causing problems whenever he has visitations scheduled. My friend pays child support — he always did. Prior to the court order, the children were predominantly living with him.

My friend buys clothes for children, pays for therapies, extra curriculum activities, medical expenses, hairdressers, toys and so on. They’ve never been married.

His ex entrapped him with the child. He still has his doubts whether the child is his — now it’s too late to check. It would not change a thing anyway — he loves his child wholeheartedly.

My friend was supposed to be his child again last week — she is unwilling to provide him with his “set in stone” visitation right. My friend has parental rights and has the right to see his child three times per week. His ex is stopping contact between the child and him.

Her argument: “you should pay me $700 per month because you earn more”.

What?

There are no child support payment arrangements yet. And when they start he will not be paying this sum as it’s ridiculous. Even though she may be very well aware that her argument is inhumane and pointless she uses it against him. My friend will seek help from the authorities as he was unable to see his child for a month now.

Nowadays woman can kill a child without the male having any right to participate in the decision — yet males have to pay child support for 18 years or more. What if the woman tricks a man and entraps him by getting pregnant? It happens too often and no law protects the men from these women.

There are countless movements initiated by women which speak of their choice to do whatever “they” want in case they are pregnant. After all, it's them who are bearing the child for 9 months. What about men who are enslaved for the next 18 years because of their decision?

Women can leave a newborn baby in the dumpster, yet again the male must pay 18 years of child support — this is slavery.

My friend’s ex disappeared for two months after the baby was born, he took the matters to court and the court-ordered shared care anyway. My friend’s ex has drug problems — the money he provides to his ex rarely go on the child — he has tons of evidence. She promised she doesn't take drugs anymore.

She doesn’t — only on the weekends.

Women have the right to financial support after marriage just because most women get physical custody of the children. Yet, nobody asks how is this money actually spent? Is it all going to the children?

Of course not.

My friend was paying for his ex drugs and her lifestyle.

In 13 years the child has never been taken to the hairdresser by their mother. In 13 years the mother has not paid for a single extracurricular activity for the child. The mother works and so does her partner — they are saving up the money for their parties as they rarely have the child on the weekends.

Women who push for child support where the male is devoted, active and providing fathers are only using the children to obtain additional money to improve their lifestyle.

The courts protect these abusers.

Fathers have the same rights as mothers and contact cannot be legally stopped. Unfortunately, it is common for mothers to stop a father’s access to a child merely by refusing to let them see the kids just because they are malicious.

Fathers must recognise that they have the same rights as mothers. This means in terms of child contact that they are entitled to have access to the child as much as the mother is.

Mothers should not stop a father who has parental responsibility from accessing their child. However, she can prevent access or contact and cause issues.

It’s important for fathers to obtain the court order with visitation dates because a malicious mother will do all in her power to prevent the contact. When she does that then these actions will cause her to be in contempt of court. When she fails to comply or interferes with the parenting time, she is in violation of the court order.

And that’s good for you.

When the mother exhibits her malicious and alienating tendencies it is then when there is an opening for her to lose her custodial rights. The narcissistic mothers do not realize that

1. Court orders are not suggestions — they are orders.
2. They tell parents to comply with them. There are no excuses.
3. A parent who refuses to comply with a child custody order violates the court order.
4. Visitation order is separate from child maintenance order.

Father must remember the above. If you have child support ordered — pay it. But child support and visitations are not connected.

Don’t let the abuser extort you via child support or anything else so you can see your children. If you have parental responsibility and court-order visitation rights — show up. What matters the most are your children.

Show them that you aren’t afraid of the abuse. You don’t negotiate with terrorists. Your focus is on the children.

The best technique is to keep showing up, keep contacting your child and exercising your rights to be in your child’s life.

You don’t owe women shit. Nor do women owe you. All that matters are your children.

#Mentoo.

Thank you for reading.

This article was originally published by me here.