Things taught to children and parents in kindergarten

First, do not treat children as flowers in the greenhouse

Kindergarten is the first step for children to move from home to society. Kindergarten education is consistent, so why do the ability levels of children in a class and at the same age vary greatly? To a large extent, this is determined by the parent's attitude toward education.

Children who insist on going to kindergarten every day are in an advantageous state in all aspects, bold and confident, physically fit, and generally strong in general; while some children cannot come when it is hot, dare not go out when it is cold, take a break when it is windy and rainy, get in the car when they leave the kindergarten door, go home and take the elevator, and catch a cold and cough when they are not careful.

Parents think, "Why do children get sick when they go to kindergarten? That is because your child has been raised as a "flower in the greenhouse" and cannot withstand a little bit of wind and rain.

Kindergarten focuses on the combination of education and protection, and staying at home may be the emphasis on protection rather than education. For example, kindergarten is much more thoughtful than home in terms of life and physical exercise. If the outdoor temperature is too low for long outdoor activities, the teachers arrange the environment and materials suitable for indoor physical exercise in the hallway and lead the children to insist on physical exercise.

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Second, don't take over and deprive children of the opportunity to exercise

Now every family's children are very precious, more often than not parents take the opportunity to grow up that should be the child's exercise on their behalf, to give a simple example, {eating}, many children in the garden will not eat by themselves or even chew, eat something directly swallowed into the stomach, an apple to eat an hour because it will not bite, some parents say: we are at home to the child single do, vegetables to be made into the filling, rice to boil into porridge, fruit beat into juice. I don't know that this simple act of eating, will affect the child's future two very important abilities.

The three fingers that hold the spoon and the three fingers that write are the same, and in the words of Montessori education, they are the "three pinches" action. Some children can finish their homework in 30 minutes, while others can't finish it in 1 hour and 30 minutes. When blaming our children for dawdling, have you ever thought that it is because we did not give our children the opportunity to exercise?

When my children changed their teeth, I realized the serious consequences of their lack of chewing ability, each tooth could not fall out naturally, and one grew before the other, and had to be pulled out in the hospital.

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Third, do not overpraise your child

Now our children live in a sound of praise from childhood, gradually, many children are used to only praise can not criticize, only the first can not last, only exclusive unwilling to share, and can not stand a little frustration and failure.

Once when the teacher asked the children to bring their toys to kindergarten for a sharing day, one child suddenly cried out in sadness because he did not want to bring the toys; often you can also hear parents say, "The more my child is praised, the better he performs, and he cannot be criticized."

When praising, attention should be paid to implementing different educational strategies at different ages; children before the age of 3 and a half need more praise, especially expressions and body movements that make it easier for children to feel encouraged and help them build up their confidence before they go into society.

After 3 and a half years old, we must be careful with praise, so that children understand where to do well, where to do badly, and how to do it, of course, must pay attention to the attitude and method.

In addition to exercising frustration tolerance, exercising self-control and awareness of rules from a young age is very important for growth after school.

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Don't treat your child's disobedience in a rough way

The children in the process of growing up will encounter a lot of things that make parents angry, often seen in the garden parents scolding children, some even hands on the fight. When you encounter these things, you must handle them calmly. Children are very smart, they are learning from those around them every day, especially parents, one day when your child talks back to you and loses his temper, have you ever thought that it is our influence?

So when your child disobeys you, parents should pay attention to the following points: no matter how angry you are, don't yell at your child, and don't reach out and hit him; don't interfere when one member of the family is in charge of the child; don't try to reason with your child when he is crying and emotional; get into the habit of asking why first, sometimes children may be right to see things from their point of view.

For example, one time a child made a mess of a beautiful drawing that had been drawn with a black marker, but the child said it was because it was dark; another time a child put soap in the faucet every time he washed his hands because he wanted to try to make bubbly water.

So how do you do when you don't listen? Try to let your child reflect on it, take him to a quiet place, let him calm down, sit down face to face, let your child see your face and eyes clearly, seriously tell him why it's wrong, let him know clearly where the mistake is, how to do it in the future, and discuss with him what kind of punishment to accept if he does it wrong again, and finally when your child admits his mistake be sure to give Finally, when the child admits his mistake, make sure to give him an encouraging hug.

When the child admits his mistake, he must give him an encouraging hug. In the future, he must fulfill the previously agreed punishment when he encounters similar things so that he can feel responsibility and integrity from an early age.