The Help Meet

Now, my sisters may beat me for the title of this article and the illustration that I have selected. Just a little humor if you know me personally however the story is a bit deeper. Please allow me to explain this concept. I’ve always considered myself to work in an unorthodox manner. So I will attempt to approach this on the back end, while explaining the primary role of the man. I understand what society has placed by mixing these roles up, and if you are subject to having a household, without gender roles this article may not be for you. Just don’t be confused if he ask you to check on a loud noise in the middle of the night or to take out the trash and pay half of the bills. I know some of you have been there before and some of you are living in the situation now.

By now you should be tired of what society has fed us into believing that men and women are equal when it comes to roles in a relationship and roles in a marriage. In fact, we are total opposite and we are not equal. It is greatly understood that we need each other, but we are not equal. This is why it is so important as a woman you should build your man up with the understanding of your complete role as a woman in a marriage. Again, this information might not be for you, I only speak to those who want to live a life that is based on sound principles. Last time I checked the streets do not have sound principles. They can save that ride or die BS for somebody else.

The primary role of a woman in a marriage is to help the MAN understand that she is the help meet and nothing more. So what do I mean by that statement? Well that’s easy and the answer is as simple as pie in the sky. Will situations surface where there is assistance, needed from a woman in the areas of finance? That is a strong possibility, because life is life and life will happen. That is the reality behind it all. However, that woman’s primary objective is to have the MAN understand that she is secondary in all things when it comes to the household, and that the man should be the forefront of everything concerning the household. Something breaks he should see about getting it fixed. A strange noise in the middle of the night, he should get up and check on his strange noise. He should be at some point responsible for all the financial bills concerning the house after the conversation and understanding has been made between the both of you. This may vary from household household not all assholes are the same it may be 90-10 it may be 70-30 it may be 80-20 but if it’s 50-50 you’re living with a roommate.

So let’s set this up in a hypothetical pre-marriage conversation. What conversations should women have with men prior to marriage concerning finances? Well, the first question is you should find out if that man is content with his finances. If he is content with his finances, it should tell you one of two things. Either he has no ambition, or he is set to the point where he can financially take on anything that is added to his life. If he is not at the point of financial stability, what is his plan? This is where the bulk of a woman’s conversation comes in, and gathering understanding as to what his plans are to sustain a household by himself. Whatever plan that he is working on hopefully their plan is a legal one, and it is one that is going to create an atmosphere, where he is the sole provider of the household. Now, do you need to help him get to the point that all depends on the conversation you have between you and this man. However, I do caution you when it comes to helping a man sustain himself.

Needless to say, you should have a clear understanding, and The Man should have a clear understanding of his role as a primary provider of the house home after a series of conversations. If there is not a understanding of where this man should be after a specific time, or at the specific number of goals that are accomplished in life there it is highly recommended that having a relationship with this man may not be a good idea, based on your desires for him to be a sole provider.

Now, if you have a desire to be the next boss, woman, or the next CEO, and this may not be for you, and we completely understand your desires. As I mentioned in my previous article, you cannot be in two places at one time. Your worth is not any lesser or better in any position. Just know that your value can only be used in one area. You cannot be used in both areas or you will easily burn your life out as a woman. It’s just a plain and simple.